Toka Te Manawa
- Tiimata puhoi
- Hoatu he wa ki a ratou
- Tukuna kia rite ki o te whanau
- Hoatu he waahi ki a raatau kia rongohia
- Mahi ki te whakapakari i te whakawhirinaki
- Titiro ki o kupu
- Kia kotahi te peera ki o tamariki katoa
- A faataa i te taime utuafare
He maatua tupuna koe, ka tata ranei hei kotahi? Mena ka kitea e koe i roto i te hononga tino nui ki tetahi kua oti ke i a raatau tamariki, kei te kokonga tonu te papa-wehe. Ko te tuunga hei papa tupuna he nui nga wero, engari kaua e ngaro te tumanako: Akuanei ka pai te noho me te manaaki o to whanaungatanga me o tamariki, engari me ata tatari kia tae atu koe ki reira.
Mena he tamariki tamariki taau i roto i to koiora, anei etahi tohu awhina hei awhina i a koe ki te whakawhiti i to hononga hou me te iti o te awangawanga.
Tiimata puhoi
Ko te ngana ki te uru ki nga koiora o to tamaiti takahi, ki te whakauru ranei ki a koe, i te wa kotahi ka pa te ahotea ki nga taha e rua. Engari, tiimata kia marena to hononga hou me te hui poto, poto hoki.
Kaua e tino kaha te peehi i a koe ake, i o tupuranga-kia-waiho ranei. Me ata noho marire, kia ngawari, kia iti te pehanga i o hui tuatahi. Me waiho ki te taha poto (whakaarohia kia kotahi haora, kaua te ahiahi) ka pupuri i roto i te taiao e waatea ana, ko te mea pai pea e mohiotia ana e o tupua.
Hoatu he wa ki a ratou
Kei te hiahia o tupapaku he wa ki te pouri me te urutau ki nga whakarereketanga i puta i o raatau oranga i te wehenga o o raatau maatua. Ko te whakaae kaore o ratau maatua e hoki ano, ana he tipuna o ratau whanau, he uaua ki nga tamariki. Akene he pai ke ki te kite ia koe ko te maatua tupuna kino ki te tiimata - he taiao noa tera.
Kaua e tarai ki te tere ki te akiaki i to hononga ki a raatau ranei. Me noho kia taurite, kia maarama tonu kia mohio raatau kei reira koe mo raatau. Kia maarama ki a raatau kaore koe e ngana ki te whakakapi i to raatau matua.
Tukuna kia rite ki o te whanau
Akene ka whakamatautauria koe ki te hoatu maimoatanga motuhake ki o stepkids ki te whakaatu e hiahia ana koe kia koa ratou - engari whakahee! Ma te rongoa motuhake ka aro nui atu ki to ahuatanga hou ka pai ake te ahua me te awangawanga.
Kaua ki te hoatu maimoatanga motuhake ki a raatau, whakauru atu ki nga mahi a to whanau. Tonoa ratou kia awhina ki te whakarite i te teepu, ki te toha ranei i etahi mahi ki a ratou. Whakahere awhina mo nga mahi kaainga, te waatea ranei ki te whiwhi tahua ma te awhina i nga kaainga o te whare. Whakamahia nga ture whenua rite ki taau e hiahia ana ki to whanau ake.
Hoatu he waahi ki a raatau kia rongohia
Mena kaore o tupuna i te hiahia ki te whakarongo, ka riri pea raatau ki a koe. Ko te maatakitaki i o raatau maatua kua wehe ke me te mohio kaore o raatau mana ki te whakarereke he uaua te haere mo tetahi tamaiti. Mahi ki te tuku i o raatau reo me te waatea ki te whakaputa i o raatau whakaaro.
Whakahaungia to raatau whanau whanau kia waiho hei tauranga karanga tuatahi kia taea ai e raatau te korero mo o raatau awangawanga me te ngawari me te kore e whakawehi. Ana, ka taea e koutou katoa te whakawhitiwhiti korero. Tukuna atu ki o tupua e mohio ana koe kei te aro nui koe ki o raatau awangawanga.
Mahi ki te whakapakari i te whakawhirinaki
Kaore e tae mai te whakawhirinaki i te wa poto. Whakamahia he waa ki te mahi ki te whakapakari i te whakawhirinaki me o tupuna kia pai ai to hononga i roto i nga tau.
Me tiimata ma te ata whakarongo ki a raatau i a raatau e korero ana ki a koe. I nga wa katoa ka korerohia e raatau ki a koe, ka tono ranei mo to awhina mo tetahi mea, he whakaaturanga iti tera e tuwhera ana ratou ki te whakawhirinaki ki a koe. Whakahonoretia ma te whakarongo ki te whakamana i a raatau. Awhinahia ratou kia mohio ki te whakawhirinaki ki a koe ma te whakaute i o raatau kare a roto, me to raatau muna.
Titiro ki o kupu
Ko te rironga o te tupuna he nui te awangawanga me nga kare a roto ka kaha rere i nga taha e rua. E mahi ana o stepkids i etahi mea uaua, aa kaore e kore ka panaia e koe o patene i tera waa ki tera wa i a ratau e mahi haere ana.
I etahi wa ka rongohia e koe te nui o te kawa me te riri i roto i a raatau korero ki a koe, ka tino ngana ki te turaki i etahi rohe. He mea nui kia noho marie koe me te matakitaki i au kupu ahakoa nga mea e rangona ana e koe. Mena ka hopu koe i au tamariki mokopuna, ka korero ranei ki a raatau me te riri, kawa ranei, ka riri ratou ki a koe, ka tino iti ake to tupono ki te whanaungatanga pai.
Kia kotahi te peera ki o tamariki katoa
Mena he tamariki ake taau, ka uru koe ki te whanau hanumi - ana ehara i te mea ngawari! Engari he mea nui kia rite te peera o o tamariki ki a koe, ana kei i roto i to kaainga o kopikopiko, he tamariki katoa na maau.
Korero atu ki to hoa me te whakarite ture ture mo te whanonga, katahi ka mahi takirua ki te whakamahi i aua ture ki o tamariki katoa. Kaua rawa e whakawhiwhia ki etahi tamariki motuhake. He huarahi tino pai ki te hiki ake i te riri ki o taakimakimakimi, hei whakangaro i to hononga.
A faataa i te taime utuafare
Me whakarite i te waa whanau ki tetahi waahanga o ia wiki. Ma tenei e mohio ai a tamariki me a stepkids he whanau katoa koe inaianei, ana he mea nui te noho tahi. Akene ko nga Paraire te po kiriata, ko nga Ratapu ranei kaukau ka whai ko nga kuri wera. Me ngana ki te whakatau mo tetahi mea e mohio ana koe he tino pai ki a koe a stepkids kia kore ai e peehi i a raatau.
Ka tutaki pea koe ki te aukati i te tuatahi, engari ko te whakarite i te waa whanau hei waahanga kore korero mo o mahi ia wiki, ka whai waahi honohono koe, ka whakapakarihia te whakaaro e hiahia ana koe ki te noho wa me o tupuna.
Ko te riroraa hei papa tipuna he wero. Ko te rori ki te whanaungatanga pai me o taakete ka ahua roa tonu, a he maha nga pupuhi i te huarahi. Engari ki te mau tonu to manawanui me to piripono, ka taea e koe te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga poipoi ka pakari haere ka mohio koutou tetahi ki tetahi.