Toka Te Manawa
- 1. Te huna ohorere
- 2. Te hiahia hou ki te hangarau
- 3. Te whakahua pinepine i tetahi atu
- 4. Te momotu mai i a koe
- 5. Te whakahe i a koe
- 6. Rahua te haki kopu
- Te whakaora i nga take aronganui
Ko nga take kare a roto i te kare-a-roto he matakite me te tino pau, ahakoa nga whakaaro o te nuinga, kaore i te waatea me te whakamahere. Ko nga take kare-a-roto i te waahi mahi he mea noa ake i to hiahia.
Na, me pehea e tiimata ai nga mahi ki te hoa mahi? Ko te haere ki te taha o te hoa mahi tera pea he whakaaro whaiipoipo, ataahua hoki, ina koa ki te whakaaro tetahi he ataahua tetahi o ana hoa mahi. Mena kei te awangawanga koe kei te puremu to hoa taane, tera pea etahi tohu kei te moe puremu to hoa rangatira, me te whakaiti i to hononga.
Ahakoa te maha o nga take ka kori tinana, ko nga mahi kare a roto he tikanga ka taea e nga hoa takahi te takahi i te whanaungatanga o a raatau hononga, a ko te waahi mahi te waahi ka tiimata nga tini kaupapa kare a roto.
I te nuinga o nga wa, ko te tangata e whakapouri ana i nga kare a roto, kaore pea i te mohio kua neke atu ratau ki tetahi rohe takahi-takahitanga hononga-kore, ana ko tenei raru e tino kitea ana i te waahi mahi.
Ko te raru o nga take kare-a-roto me tetahi hoa mahi ko te tangata e whakapohehe ana i te kare a roto me tana hoa mahi e raru ana ia; to raua marenatanga, to raatau ingoa, a raatau mahi, me to raatau hononga ki o raatau hoa mahi. Ana kua korero ake nei taatau, na te mea he mohio te ahua o te kaupapa kare a roto, kaore pea i te mohio he nui ake te tuponotanga e mau ana i a ratau i nga take kare a roto i te mahi.
Mena kei te rangirua koe mo te mea kua tata rawa atu koe ki tetahi hoa mahi, mena kei te awangawanga koe kei uru atu to hoa rangatira ki tetahi taangata kare-a-roto me tetahi hoa mahi, kua whakaritehia e matou etahi tohu e ono hei awhina i a koe ki te whakaipoipo.
Anei nga tohu whakaponokore o te whatumanawa hei tirotiro maau mena e whakapae ana koe i te whakaponokore o te whatumanawa.
1. Te huna ohorere
Mena kua huna muna to hoa kaare he take o te whakaohooho, kaare pea ka huna ratau i tetahi take, a ka raruraru pea koe.
Engari mena kei te tata mai to ra whanau, to raa whanau ranei, ana kei te whakarite ratau i tetahi hui ohorere maau, akene kua tae ki te waa ki te tiimata ki te patai.
Mena ko koe te hoa kua matara atu i to hoa rangatira, heoi ,, kua kite pea koe kua mutu to korero ki to hoa rangatira e korerohia ana e koe i te mea kua korero ke koe i enei kaupapa me to hoa mahi.
Mena kua tiimata koe ki te huna i to waea mai i to hoa rangatira, kua whakarereke ranei i to imeera me nga taipitopito takiuru papaho pāpori i te wa nei ka he pea to korero me to hoa mahi ki to hoa rangatira, he tohu pea tenei kei te anga atu koe ki tetahi hononga ka kino pea to marena. Ko te momotu ki to hoa rangatira tetahi tohu tohu kare a roto rawa kia mataara.
2. Te hiahia hou ki te hangarau
Ko tetahi o nga tohu e tinihangatia ana e to hoa rangatira me tana hoamahi ko to raatau hiahia ki te hangarau, ina koa i te huarahi huna.
Kua timata to hoa ki te whakamahi i a raatau waea atamai i nga wa katoa? Akene kei te uru atu raatau ki roto i a raatau kaute papaaho me te imeera ano i enei ra.
Kua kitea ranei e koe e mahi ana i enei mea, kia korero ai koe ki to hoa mahi?
Mena kua mau koe i a koe ko to hoa rangatira ranei i tenei mahi, ka waiho hei tohu mo te mahi ngakau.
3. Te whakahua pinepine i tetahi atu
Ka tiimata ana te tangata ki te haumi haumi ki tetahi atu, he uaua ki te pupuri i nga kare-a-roto, ka puea ake pea te raruraru. Ka taea e to hoa rangatira te whakaatu tohu mo tetahi mahi ngakau me tetahi hoa mahi ma te whakahua pinepine i te tangata.
Kaare ratau ka iti ake te whakataurite, ka korero ranei ki a koe i nga korero iti (me te kore he harakore) mo tera tangata - he maha.
Kei te kite koe i te whakahua i to hoa mahi i nga korerorero? Akene he iti ake ke i te whakahua i etahi atu hoa mahi? Mena ka mahi koe, he tohu tenei kei te piri atu koe ki te taha o to hoa mahi i te mea ka takahi pea to hononga me to hoa.
4. Te momotu mai i a koe
Ka noho ana koe i roto i te hononga, ka aro koe me te whakakaha i nga kare a roto o to hoa. Engari mena e aro atu ana to hoa rangatira ki etahi atu waahi, akene ka wehe ke atu raua i a koe, ka kore pea ka awhinahia e koe to kare a roto, a ka iti haere pea te aro o to hoa rangatira.
Ka tiimata pea e to hoa te korero mo o raru me o hoa mahi, kaua ko koe.
I ahu mai tenei na te mea ko to hoa rangatira (mena kei te whakaipoipo raua ko tana hoamahi) kei te tautoko pea i a ratau hoa mahi kaore i a koe.
Mena ka nui ake o korerorero i o raru ki o hoa mahi tena ki to hoa rangatira, ka taea e koe te tohu he tohu ahi kei te whanake haere koe me tetahi hoa mahi.
5. Te whakahe i a koe
Mena kei te whakaipoipo atu to hoa rangatira me tana hoamahi, ka tiimata pea te whakapae ki a koe, ki te waiho ranei i a koe i tetahi ara, i tetahi atu ranei. Ana ka kite pea koe kei te penapena ratau i o raatau whakamoemiti me te aro nui ki o raatau hoa mahi kaore ko koe.
Akene kei te moemoea o whakaaro to hoa mo tetahi atu, kei te whakaatuhia e ia ranei te hara ki a koe i a ratau whakahe ki a koe. Ae ra ki etahi ahuatanga, ka harakore tenei, engari ka waiho ano hei tohu mo te kaupapa kare a roto.
6. Rahua te haki kopu
Ko tetahi tohu nui mo te koretake o te kare a roto me tetahi hoa mahi ko te haki puku. Kei te puremu ke to hoa rangatira me tana hoamahi mena ka kite koe i a ratau taunekeneke, me te tuhi i nga ingoa o tona ingoa, ka pouri koe mena ka kite koe i tetahi hoa mahi e paatai ana.
He tohu tera kei te tika pea o maaharahara mo taua hoa mahi.
Mena ko koe tonu kei te whakaaro mena he tino kare-a-roto koe, akene ka he ke koe kei te takahi koe i te raina, ka eke koe ki te papa me tetahi hoa rangatira kua marenatia, i etahi wa ka haere koe ki te he me te whakaaro me pehea te whakatika te kaha o te ngakau ki tetahi hoamahi me te mataku kei raru a muri ake nei.
Akene kei te kii atu to puku ki a koe kei te rapu koe i te koa i roto i te huarahi morearea i roto i te ahua o te kaupapa ngakau.
Ko te pikinga ohorere o te whakakakahu i te ara e kore e rite ki te momo o to hoa, he haki whero tino kaingakau. Mena ka kite koe i to hoa rangatira, i to taane ranei, e whakakakahu ana i nga kakahu o mua ake nei, e raru ana mo o ratau ahua, ka waiho pea hei tohu mo nga kaupapa kare a roto i te mahi.
Te whakaora i nga take aronganui
Ka mau ana koe ki tau tahu kei te tinihanga koe me tana hoa mahi, kua timata ranei koe ki te kite i etahi tohu wheriko kei te whai take whakaipoipo taau hoa rangatira, kei te pouri koe ka rapu huarahi pea koe ki te wikitoria i te moepuku.
Mena kua puta ke te whakaaro pouri o to hoa rangatira me tana hoa mahi, ki te hara ranei to wahine i te koretake o te kare a roto, ko te whakamutu i te take te mea matua ki te whakaora i to marenatanga. He mea nui kia whakaatu mai to korua ko to hoa rangatira, me te kaha ki te rapu huarahi ranei me pehea e mutu ai to hononga me tetahi hoa mahi.
He uaua pea ki te ora i nga mamae mamae o te kore whakaponotanga o te hoa rangatira, na te mea kua tinihangatia te hoa kua oti te tinihanga. Ko te take kare a roto e whakapoke i te marenatanga, engari ko to marena te mea nui ki a koe me te kowhiringa ki te whakamutu i te marena ka haere tonu ranei maau.
Mena kei te hiahia korua ki te tiimata hou, rapua nga tohutohu mo te marenatanga kia pai ai nga tohutohu mo te whakaara ake i te marenatanga kua mate i te koretake o te kare a roto.