Toka Te Manawa
Mena ko koe tetahi o te 15 ki te 20% o te taupori e kiia ana he tino tairongo, he wero katoa ki a koe ... ina koa ko te taha o to hoa rangatira.
He aha te mea ka tupu ki nga taangata tino mohio
Ka poipoia e nga tangata tutu, nga reo nui me nga rama marama. He pai ake ki a koe te keri i tetahi pukapuka taumaha nui atu i te korerorero papaku. Ana, he tino urupare koe ki te kite i nga korero ruarua a to hoa rangatira ranei.
I whanau koe penei, ana i a koe e ngana ana kia "rite ki etahi atu" kei te mohio koe me te tino urupare ka whara to hoa i o kare-a-roto, ki te kore e marama ki a koe. Ana, Ka roa ake koe ki te whakaora mai i te nuinga o te iwi.
I te mutunga, he maha nga taangata aro nui e ngana ana ki te kii ki a raatau ano me ngoikore te whakaaro. Ka korero ratou i a raatau ano mo o raatau whara, whakararu i a raatau ki te whakakahore ranei i to ratau pouri me te mutunga ka kitea kaore e pai tenei. Ma te pupuri tonu i te riri, i etahi wa, tae atu ki te pouri.
Te otinga
Whakaaetia kua whara koe, aroha ki a koe ano, ana ka rite koe, karangahia to hoa kia korerorero mo taua mea. Ko te kupu matua i konei ko te Whakawhitiwhitinga. Kaua e whakapae, whakama, whakaekehia ranei to hoa rangatira kaore pea koe e mohio he aha koe e whakaaro ana he aha koe. Ka mutu, ko te nuinga o nga taangata tino taatai me te hunga mohio ake me te kore o raatau aronganui. Ka tohaina enei hoa mo to maaramatanga engari kaore i te maarama i te wa e raru ai o riri.
Karangahia to hoa ki te korerorero kia taea ai e korua te whakaputa i o whakaaro. Ka taea e koe te korero i te tuatahi ka tatari mo ta raatau whakautu. Mena ka tautohetohe to hoa taupatupatu ranei me nga mea e pa ana ki a koe, me tuku atu kia mohio koe kaore o tautohenga e tautohetia, kaore hoki koe e taea te korero. Tonoa kia whakarongo noa mai raatau. Ana, mena ka taea e raatau tenei, hoatu ki a raatau he waahi hei whakaputa i o raatau kare a roto.
Ko tetahi o nga huarahi hei tiimata mo te korerorero- "Ki taku whakaaro kaore koe i kii mai he momona ahau, engari he tino mamae ki te kii koe he ahua kuiti rawa aku tarau." Tatari mo te whakautu.
Me kaha koe ki te mahi i tenei me te aro ki te korero "he taikaha rawa koe" korero e ahu mai ana i roto i to mahunga mai i to hoa-a-kanohi ranei e huri ana o raua karu. Kaore koe i te aro nui. I whara koe me te hiahia nui ki te whakatika i to whara.
Mo nga tau 27 neke atu i te mea he kaiwhakawai hauora, kua kite ahau i te nuinga o nga taangata taangata e tautohetohe ana ki a ratau hoa rangatira, me te whakahau kia whakarongo ratau kia maarama ki a raatau ... engari kaore he hua. Kei te hiahia enei taangata ki te mohio me te whakamana engari kaore o raatau hoa e mohio. Ko te totohe me te tautohetohe me to hoa rangatira mohio ka nui ake te ahotea, te kore mohio me te whakararu ia koe mai i te tino take ... to whara.
He wero kia mohio to hoa rangatira ki to wheako tino taawewe pera ano hoki kia maarama koe ki o raatau. Ka mutu, he rereke ta raatau huarahi me te whakautu ki te ao mai i a koe ana mena i kii koe i enei korero ki a raatau, akene ka pakaru noa iho.
Kia mau ki te whakaaro tuwhera
Kia mohio ma te mea na to hoa kaore e mohioto whara, ehara i te kii ko raataukaua e tino aroha ki a koe. Ko te tikanga anake he rereke te ahua o o raatau wairua me o roro i to koe.
I te poto, ki te whakaae koe ki to maaramatanga kaore he whakatau me te korero mo o mamae, ka marama pea to hoa rangatira ki nga uaua o te mea e pa ana ki a koe. Ko te tumanako, ma tenei ka nui ake ai to korua aroha ki o korua ahuatanga taangata.