Toka Te Manawa
- Whiriwhiri 1: Noho
- Tangohia te pono kino i runga i te teepu
- Me waiho to whakapehapeha ki te taha
- Te Muru
- Whiriwhiri 2: Waiho
- Tangohia to waahanga
- Karapotia koe me o hoa me to whanau
Ka mamae te pono. Ana, ki te mea ko te moepuku o to wahine, me kaha ki te wero.
Ahakoa nga korero mo te moepuku o to wahine he mamae ki te whakarongo, he mea nui kia neke atu koe i te tinihanga. Ko te whakakakahu ka hohonu noa atu nga maauiui kare a roto i te roanga o to ao.
Na, ko te mahi tuatahi ko te whakaae ki te whakaponokore o te hoa rangatira ka tiimata ai te whakatau wawe i te whakaponokore.
Ka tukuna ana ki a koe nga meka o te moepuku, na te urunga mai o taau wahine, ki te kore ranei, ka rua nga whiringa kei a koe: ko te noho me te haere ranei.
Ahakoa te huarahi e whiriwhiria e koe, me mau mai e koe he rautaki aro nui ki a koe kia maeneene tonu te huarahi i whakatauhia e koe kia haere.
Kaore he huarahi maama ki waho. Kapi katoa ia ahunga i nga taumahatanga, engari me pehea e kowhiria ai e koe enei tutukitanga ka rereke katoa.
Panui e Pa Ana: Kei te Tinihangatia taku Wahine i runga i ahau Uiui
Panuihia mo etahi tohu awhina hei aro atu ki te moepuku, me te whakahoki ano i nga ahuatanga o to koiora.
Whiriwhiri 1: Noho
Mena koinei te huarahi e tohua e koe, maarama ka nui ake nga aukati i te timatanga tena ki tetahi. Me murua e koe to wahine tinihanga i te wa e pa ana ki te moepuku i roto i te marena.
Me ako e koe te katoa mo te take e paatai ana. Me waiho e koe to whakapehapeha ka aro ki te whaainga mutunga o te marena kua whakahokia mai.
Ko te mahi ki te hoa rangatira Tinihanga he tino uaua. Engari ki te oti te mahi pukumahi me te whakaaro rangatira, ka ngawari te mahi ki te wahine Tinihanga. Ano hoki, ka kite koe kua pai haere to hononga i te wa.
Tangohia te pono kino i runga i te teepu
Me pehea te mahi ki te wahine Tinihanga? Ranei, me pehea te whakaeke ki te tangata tinihanga?
I mua i ta tatou paatai i te patai, me whakarereke kia iti ake nei. Me whakariterite e maatau te paatai 'me pehea te aro atu ki te wahine Tinihanga' penei me te 'pehea te whakahaere i tetahi take' me te 'pehea ki te mahi ki to wahine kua tupono mo etahi take.'
Inaha hoki, ehara to wahine i te hunga tinihanga i nga wa katoa. Me maarama koe ki tana waahanga o te korero i mua i to whakatau ki te tapa i a ia ki nga kupu whakatupu kino.
Ka rite ki te korero i mua, ka mamae te pono. Kia mahara ki tera; ka kino haere i mua o te pai ake.
Kia ora ai to hononga i te kaupapa i uru atu ai to wahine, me mohio koe ki nga korero katoa.
- Ko tehea te wa whakamutunga i pa atu a ia ki taua tangata?
- I moe ngatahi raua, he tino kare-a-roto ranei?
- I aroha ia ki te tangata?
Kaore koe e hiahia ki te whakarongo ki nga whakautu ki enei patai, engari me maarama tonu koe kaua ko nga mahi anake engari me te aha i puta ai.
Na roto i te keri i te patunga o te whatumanawa, ka mamae pea koe, engari ka marama pea koe he aha i puta ai i te tuatahi.
Ka oti te pono mo te whakaponokore o to wahine, ka taea te tiimata ki te hanga i nga mea mai i te pakaru. He pai ake te tiimatanga hou mai i te puehu tena ki te tarai me te hanga i runga o te turanga hē me te kore oti.
Patai ki taau wahine he aha nga mea hei whakarongo maau. Ehara tenei i te waa ki te karo i te pono, na te mea ahakoa ka whara, he waahi iti rawa tena ki a koe ki te whakapakari ake i a koe ano.
Me waiho to whakapehapeha ki te taha
Mena kei te hiahia koe ki te noho, ehara i te mea na te mea e hiahia ana koe kia mau tonu te kore whakapono o to wahine ki runga i tona mahunga tae noa ki te mutunga o te waa. Ehara i te mea hei takaro mana.
Me hiahia koe ki te noho ki to hoa wahine na te mea e aroha ana koe ki a ia, e hiahia ana kia noho to wa ki a ia.
Akene ko to whakapehapeha ka raru ki te whai i te whakarereketanga o to marena i etahi wa. Na, kia mahara tonu tenei- ka tukuna koe kia riri ki a ia i a koe e mahi ana i tetahi take, engari kaore koe e whakaae kia riri tonu koe mena ka hiahia koe kia mahi.
Te Muru
Ki te kore e murua, e kore to marena e ora i te moetanga o to wahine. Na, me pehea te whakatutuki i te whakaponokore?
Mo te aro ki te tinihanga, me murua e ia a ia ano. Engari tuatahi, me murua e koe to wahine tinihanga. Pono!
Kaore he painga e puta mai i te kawa ka oho ake mena kaore te murunga i te tino whainga i a koe e whakatika ana i to marenatanga. Mena kaore e taea e koe te kite kei te murua e koe aana mahi i mahi ia, kaore tenei huarahi mou. Ka haurangi koe. Ka whara koe.
Engari ko te noho haurangi me te mau tonu o te mamae kaare e pai ki te hauora o tetahi atu o o korua. Kia kaha ki te murua o nga hara, ka kite koe ka kaha ake to hononga i to mua o te mahi.
Panui e Pa Ana: He Tohu Tinana Kei Te Tinihangatia E To Wahine
Whiriwhiri 2: Waiho
Mena he kino rawa te mahi a to wahine me te tinihanga ki a koe, na, kaore te nuinga i te whakahe i a koe mo to wehenga atu i to marena.
Ae, ko te marenatanga he kupu whakaari ki te aroha tetahi ki tetahi mo te roanga o to ao koiora, engari ko te noho whakaponokore me te korenga o o korua he nui rawa te tono.
E tino whakaae ana koe ki te whakarere i te marenatanga i a koe e whakatau ana i tetahi take. Ko tenei ara ka tae mai me tana ake waahanga aukati.
Engari, ki te mea kua whakatauhia e koe te haere i runga i tenei ara, me nga taputapu tika hei whakarite, ka taea e koe te aro atu ki te whakaponokore o to wahine me te whakarereke i te roanga o te waa.
Tangohia to waahanga
Ehara tenei i te whakaaro mo te whakatuwheratanga o te whakama ki a koe ano hei whakautu ki te whakaponokore o tau wahine. Engari, maau koe e tarai ki te tirotiro i to marenatanga o mua me te tohu he aha pea te waahanga kua pahemo atu koe.
Ae, i tinihangatia koe e ia, engari i te nuinga o nga wa he mea ke hei mahi maau kia mutu te moepuku a to wahine.
Akene kua mutu to korero ki a ia. Akene kua mutu to whakaatu aroha. Akene kaore koe i aro nui ki a ia.
Ehara tenei i te mahi whakangungu e tarai ana kia wetekina ia i te matau. Ko te mea hei ako mai i. I te mutunga, ka hiahia koe ki te timata ano ki te taatai. Akuanei, ka hiahia koe ki te piri atu ki tetahi atu wahine.
Mena kaore koe i mohio me ako mai i o mahi he i roto i to marena, tera pea ka korerohia e koe aua he i roto i o whanaungatanga a meake nei. Whakamahia he rangahau whaiaro ka tiro he aha ake pea te mea i pai ake ai koe kia pai ake ai koe a meake nei.
Maataki te riipene ataata i raro nei kia maarama me te karo i nga hapa o te whanaungatanga.
Karapotia koe me o hoa me to whanau
Ka hiahia koe i tetahi punaha tautoko kaha me nga taangata korero ki a raatau i muri i to whakatau whakatau ki te whakarere i to wahine. Ma te whakapiri i o pakihiwi me nga taringa ki te korero, ka whai hua nui koe i a koe e tarai ana ki te whakaora mai i te whara i pehia e to wahine.
Kaua e kati i a koe ano ki to kaainga kaore e toro atu ki te toro. He maha nga taangata ka hiahia ki te awhina; taau noa mahi he hoatu i te mea angitu ki a ratou.
Mena kaore koe e hiahia ki te korero ki tetahi hoa, ki tetahi mema ranei o to whanau, tena tirohia te awhina a te kaitautoko, te kaitohutohu ranei. Kaore enei tohunga ngaio whakangungu e whakawa i to ahua; ka awhina noa koe ki te maarama he aha koe i pena ai.
Ko te korero ki te tangata ki te korero me te toro atu he mea nui ki te whiu aronganui penei i te taiva o to wahine. Kaua e waiho noa iho.
Ahakoa he aha taau e kowhiri ai, kia noho ki te haere ranei, kia mohio ko te pono mo te whakaponokore o to wahine ka whara, engari ka awhina koe ki te whakaora. Whakataungahia te take me nga raru i roto i a ia kia pai ai to tiimata ki te whakarereke i a koe ano me to marena.
Whakamahia enei pukenga taera me nga taatai kia puta ki tua atu o te moepuku me te maarama nui ki te aukati a muri ake nei.