Toka Te Manawa
I te wa e puri ana to korua ko to hoa i roto i nga korerorero whakaohooho (a, ki ta maua hiahia ki te kii "he pakanga"), he maamaa noa te haukoti i a raatau ki nga korero whakapae penei i te "Kare he tino he!" pe "Kaore koe e marama ki taku i kii ai!" Heoi, he huarahi pai tenei hei whakanui ake i nga korero ki roto i te totohe tautohe, kaua ki te neke ki te whakatau pai.
Ko te pai o te korerorero i roto i te marenatanga i nga wa o nga pakanga te mea e mau tonu ai te hononga. Ko te whakarongo kore-whakahee he tino pukenga ki te whakamahi i nga ahuatanga penei penei na te mea ka taea te haere tonu te korerorero i runga i te tikanga e rongohia ai nga taha e rua. Ana ka peera ana, he pai ake te kawe i a koe ki to whainga: te whakatutuki i to take ma te hauora.
He aha te whakarongo-kore-whakarongo?
Ma te ngawari, ko te whakarongo kore-whakahee he huarahi e rua nga waahanga e rongo pono ai to hoa me te hanga i tetahi huarahi whakawhitiwhiti pai ake i roto i te marena. Tuatahi, ka tuku i to hoa ki te whakaputa i o raatau whakaaro me te kore koe e peke ki roto ka tuaina. Tuarua, ka akohia e koe me pehea te whakautu ki to hoa i runga i te whakaute ki a raatau, kaore he kare kino, he whakahe ranei. Ko enei huarahi e rua ka tae atu koe ki te wahi e hiahia ana koe: te mohio ki te kaupapa, me te mahi kia pai ai o maataa o korua mutunga.
Me wehe e tatou nga waahanga o te whakarongo kore-pararau ka ako me pehea te whakauru i tenei taputapu kia taea ai e tatou te unu atu i te wa e hiahiatia ana.
Kia maarama he aha te whakarongo whakarongo-kore, kia tirohia etahi o nga tikanga i whakamahia ārai whakarongo:
Kei te "whakarongo" parepare koe ina:
- Pohoua to hoa ("Kati te korero mo tenei. Kua hoha au ki te whakarongo ki a koe !!!")
- Whakahoki ki to hoa ma te noho puku me te waiho i te ruuma (Te kore korero)
- Whakakahore i te tirohanga a to hoa ki nga mea ("Kei te marama to whakaaro !!!")
Mena kua mahi koe i te whakarongo whakahee (kei a tatou katoa, na kaua e kino ki tenei), ka mohio koe kaore koe e whai waahi.
Te whakarongo-kore Ko te aro nui ki nga korero a to hoa me te maarama me te maarama mo te kaupapa e kawea mai ana e raatau ki te teepu. Ko te whakautu, kaua te urupare.
Me pehea te whakarongo kaore e tautohetohe
1. Kaua e haukoti
Ma te tikanga ka tino pai rawa atu — he hiahia katoa ta tatou ki te peke atu ki te kore tatou e whakaae ki ta tatou e whakarongo nei. Ahakoa ki te whakaaro he haurangi ta tatou e rangona nei, he teka katoa, he huarahi ke ranei - waiho to hoa kia mutu. Ka whai wa koe ki te urupare ka mutu ana.
Ka raru ana koe i tetahi e korero ana, ka porangi koe, kaore hoki i rangona. Ka waihohia kua ngoikore ratau me te mea kaore i te aro o raatau whakaaro ki a koe.
2. Me aro atu ki nga korero a to hoa
He uaua tenei na te mea he kaha taatau ki te tapahi me te urupare ina koa kaore tatou e whakaae ki ta raatau e whakaputa mai ana. Kia mau tonu te arotahi, mahia nga tikanga whakangawari i a koe ano. I a koe e whakarongo ana, aro atu ki to manawa, kia pai ai te noho me te marino. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakaahuru i a koe ano ma te tango i te pukapuka panui me te tuhi i nga tohu e hiahia ana koe ki te korero i te waa ki te korero. Akene ka hiahia koe ki te taatai paku hei awhina i a koe ki te noho humarie. Korerohia atu ki to hoa kei te whakarongo katoa koe ki a raatau korero, kei kiia mai kei te whakaputa noa koe i te waa e tuhi ana.
Ka tae ana ki a koe te whakautu, whakamahia he korero whakautu e whakaatu ana ki to hoa kei te mohio koe ki nga mea e korerohia ana e raua, kaua ki to whakamaoritanga o te mea e kiia ana e koe.
Mena ka hiahia koe ki te waatea ki te whakaaroaro i to urupare, whakamohio atu ki to hoa ko to noho puku ehara i te taputapu hei whakaatu i to riri, engari he huarahi hei hanga i nga whakaaro kei roto i to mahunga. He noho puku tenei ma te whakama, ehara ko te whakahoki puku, na kia mohio ratou ko to noho humarie he wa noa iho ki a koe ki te whakaaro, kaore e aukati.
3. Noho atawhai
Ko te whakarongo ma te ngawari e mohio ana koe ka rereke pea te tirohanga a to hoa ki te kaupapa. Kei te maarama koe ehara i te pono ta raatau pono, engari he rite tonu te mana. Ko te whakarongo ma te ngawari ki te karo i te whakatau whakawa mo taau e rongo nei, ana ka mohio koe ki nga kare o muri o a raatau korero. Kei te waiho koe i roto i nga hu o to hoa kia pai ake ai to kite he aha i kite ai ratau i nga mea. "Kei te maarama ahau he aha koe i kite ai i nga mea penei, ana he mea whai tikanga" he huarahi atawhai ki te whakautu ina kua tae ki o waa korero. Ko te whakautu i nga urupare tohu he huarahi pai ki te aukati i nga take hononga mai i te waatea.
4. Te whakarongo me te mea koinei te wa tuatahi i tutaki koe ki tenei tangata
He uaua tenei, mena ka roa koe me to hoa rangatira. Ko te whakarongo kore-parenga me tutaki koe ki tenei korerorero hou, me te kore e kawe i nga kitenga i mua i to hoa rangatira. Hei tauira, mena kua tinihanga to hoa i mua atu i a koe, akene ka riro koe ki muri o to hinengaro i a koe e whakarongo ana ki a ia. Akene kei te rongohia koe i nga mea katoa i roto i te mata o te ruarua ranei e rapu ana ranei mo te teka, e rapu ana i ana rerenga korero mo nga huarahi e taea ai e koe te whakaatu kei te pono ia. Ki te whakarongo pono-kore, me whakarere e koe to whakatau me to taarua, kia hou ano te whakatau ki a ia me te kore o nga hitori o muri e huna i tenei korero o tenei wa.
5. Whakarongo me te whakaaro kia maarama, kaua hei whakautu
Ko te whaainga whanui o te whakarongo-kore hei whakarongo ki to hoa me te maarama ki a ia. Ka whai wa koe ki te hanga i to whakautu, engari i a ia e korero ana, tukua atu ki te kawe i nga korero katoa kaore i te whakauruhia o whakautu ki o whakaaro i a ia e whakaputa ana i a ia ano.
Ko te ako i te pukenga o te whakarongo kore-aukati tetahi taputapu pai rawa atu kei roto i to kete hononga engari ko te mea ka whakatata atu koe ki to hoa me o whaainga whanaungatanga.