Toka Te Manawa
- He aha te take ko te whakamoemiti te mea nui o te whanaungatanga?
- Me pehea e hohonu ai te whakaaro o te tokorua ki te tokorua?
- 1. Whakaute i nga hiahia o tetahi ki tetahi
- 2. Kia tipu tonu
- 3. Verbalize te reira
- 4. Hangaia he raarangi
- Ka ahatia ka kore te hoa e arohaina?
He aha te muna o te whanaungatanga pai? Ko te mea tuatahi ka puta ake ki te ngakau ko te aroha, pono. Ko te atawhai me te whakaute kei runga i te raarangi hiahia a te katoa. Heoi ano tetahi atu waahanga he waahanga nui o te whanaungatanga: te whakamoemiti. Ma te kore e miharo, ka memeha te aroha me te kawa me te whakahawea.
Kua kite katoa taatau i nga taane e tawai ana, e whakahe ana i a ratau i mua o te iwi. He peti pai kia kore e haere tawhiti to raua hononga. Ko nga taangata e rua e mahi ana i enei momo paitini kaore e tino miharo tetahi ki tetahi. Ki te kore koe e rata ki to hoa, kaare pea he hononga hohonu o te whanaungatanga ka mate te hononga.
He aha te take ko te whakamoemiti te mea nui o te whanaungatanga?
Ko te whakamoemiti ki tetahi ko te whakaute i tera tangata. Ka whakaute koe ki ta raatau tuunga, ki te pehea o a raatau taunekeneke ki o raatau hoa aroha me o raatau hapori. Na tenei ka hiahia koe ki te piki ake ki tetahi taumata teitei ake i a koe e whai ana kia waiho koe hei wairua whakaawe mo to raatau whakamoemiti. "Na koe ahau i hiahia kia pai ake au," e kii ana te ahua o Jack Nicholson ki tetahi wahine e matenuitia ana e ia (me tana e arohaina ana) i te kiriata "Ka Pai Te Pai". Koina ta maatau e hiahia ana ki te ite i a maatau e noho ana me te tangata tika!
Ka mahi tahi tenei ahua. He whakamoemiti tatou ki te tangata e arohaina ana e taatau, ana he hiahia kia haangai mai ratau ki a taatau. Ma tenei e pupuri ana i a ia ano e pupuri ana, e poipoi ana i te whanaungatanga me te awhina ki te whakatairanga i ia tangata ki te whai i a ia ano tino pai.
He maha nga taumata whakamiharo. I te wa i tutaki tuatahi ai tatou ki tetahi e hiahia ana tatou, akene he whakamoemiti taatau ki a ratau mo nga take koretake - he ataahua ki a taatau, he pai ranei ki ta raua taera.
I te wa e mohio ake ana tatou ki a raatau, ka neke to maatau whakamiharo mai i te taha o waho ki te taha o roto. He whakamoemiti ta maatau ki ta raatau mahi ki o raatau mahi. He pai ki a maatau to raatau hiahia mo te hakinakina. He whakamiharo taatau ki te pehea ta ratou manaaki i o ratou maatua, o ratou hoa, o te kuri mokai ... me pehea o raatau taunekeneke ki te hunga e tata ana ki a ratou. He whakamoemiti matou ki a raatau uara matua.
Mena ka aro tonu te whakamoemiti ki waho, kaore e taea te putake o te aroha ka tipu. Ka rite koe ki nga tokorua e whawhai ana i te whanui.
Me pehea e hohonu ai te whakaaro o te tokorua ki te tokorua?
1. Whakaute i nga hiahia o tetahi ki tetahi
He rereke ki nga whakaaro o te tangata, kaore te tokorua e aroha ana e noho ki te noho waatea. Inaa hoki, ko nga taane e whai ana i nga hiahia motuhake e kii ana he pai tenei ki te noho hou me te whakahihiri i to raua marenatanga. He toenga ki tenei, o te akoranga. Engari ko te whakapau mo etahi haora e rua ki te mahi "i a koe ake", ko te huarahi ranei, ko te tango i tetahi karaehe tunu kai, ko te mahi tuumomo ranei i te pokapu hapori ka hoki mai ki te kaainga me te korero i to wheako ki to hoa he tino huarahi hei whakanui ake i to maere. mo tetahi ki tetahi. Kei te mohio koe kua angitu te mahi a to hoa rangatira, kei te whakahihi koe mo era mea.
2. Kia tipu tonu
Ko te tautoko i te ara ngaiotanga o tetahi ki tetahi, ko tetahi o nga mea whakamiharo. Kei te taea e koe tetahi mea hei awhina i to hoa ki te anga whakamua me o raatau mahi? Kei te taea e raatau te mahi maau? He pai enei korero hei korerorero. Ka whiwhi ana koe i taua whakatairanga, ka tino mohio koe ka noho to hoa rangatira ki reira, me te whakamoemiti ki o raatau kanohi.
3. Verbalize te reira
"He whakamoemiti au ki te pehea a koutou" ka whai kiko tonu penei i "Te aroha ki a koe." Kia maumahara ki te korero ki to hoa rangatira to tino whakamoemiti ki a raatau. Ka nui te manakohia i te wa e pouri ana ratou, e pouri ana ranei. Ko te whakamahara ki a ratau he taonga ta raatau me aro atu koira pea nga mea hei whakarongo ma ratau.
4. Hangaia he raarangi
I tenei wa, tuhia nga mea e toru e miharo ana koe ki to hoa. Whakairi ki tera raarangi. Taapirihia atu mai i tenei wa ki tenei wa. Tirohia ki a ia ka haere koe ki roto i tetahi papaki maru.
Ka ahatia ka kore te hoa e arohaina?
Ahakoa te ahua miharo, ko te hoa faaipoipo tinihangatia kaore i te kotiti ke mo te taatai, na te mea kaore i te miharo me te maioha ki te kaainga. Ko te wahine kaore nei tana tane e aro nui ki a ia i te kaainga, kua tinihangatia ia e te hoa e mahi ana e whakarongo ana ki a ia me te kii he tino rawe ona pukenga whakaari. Ko te tane e herea ana tana wahine ki roto i nga tamariki, kaore e kaha ki te mahi tahi me tana tane, he mea ngawari ki te wahine e tiro atu ana ki a ia e korero ana, me te miharo o ona kanohi.
I etahi atu kupu, i roto i o taatau whanaungatanga aroha, me maarama te whakamoemiti me te aroha me te hiahia.
He mea nui kia mau tonu te whakamoemiti i te wa e haumi ana tatou i roto i o taatau whanaungatanga. Ko te aroha kaore e ranea hei pupuri i te marenatanga kia kaha me te ora. Korero atu ki to hoa rangatira i tenei ra he aha koe i whakamoemiti ai ki a raatau. Akene ka whakatuwhera i tetahi kaupapa korero hou ma korua.