Toka Te Manawa
- 1. Te whakawhaanui i nga korerorero
- 2. Nga kanohi kanohi
- 3. Reo Tinana
- 4. Te tono tono whakapiri me nga korero taapori
- 5. Te tika
- 6. Pa
- 7. Te maumahara ki o korerorero
- 8. He toha atu hei awhina i a koe
- 9. Ka whakamohio koe ki nga taangata whai mana ki a ia
He pai ki a koe tetahi taiohi. He pai ki a koe. Ko korua i runga i te whaarangi, no reira he maamaa te tiimata mai i tenei ra, ana he maamaa o korero.
He whanaungatanga whakahirahira kua whanau!
Kaare e pai mena he ngawari te aroha? Heoi, ko te nuinga kaore.
Na te mea he tangata tatou, e ere pinepine tatou i te feia paraparau maitai, ina koa ka tae mai te whakaatu i to maatau hiahia ki tetahi taangata e ngakaunuitia ana e maatau, me te mohio hoki me pehea te whakaatu mena he pai ki a koe taane.
Ana mena ko te tama e hiahia ana koe he ahua whakama, he whakahiato ranei, ka kino rawa atu ko nga tohu e pai ana ia ki a koe nui atu i te hoa he mohio rawa atu.
Na, me pehea te mohio mena he pai ki a koe taane? Ana he aha nga tohu maarama kei roto i a koe e te tama?
Maataki ano hoki: Nga tohu e pai ana ki a koe
Anei etahi tohu e pai ana ia ki a koe nui atu i te "hoa kau":
1. Te whakawhaanui i nga korerorero
Ko tetahi o nga tohu noa e pai ana ki te tama whakama koe ka he ataata ana ia ka kite ia i a koe me te patai i nga paatai kia roa ai o korerorero.
Me kii koe ka whiti koe i tenei tangata i te huarahi o te kura, mahi ranei. Ka tu koe ki te korero. Ka tiaho tona mata, ana ka menemene whanui ki runga.
He tohu nui tera he pai ki a koe. Ki te kore ia, i ahua pouri ranei ia, i riri ranei. Kaore pea ia e tu ki te korero.
Inaianei he kanohi korua ta korua, kei te pepa ano ia i a korua ki te patai, hei pupuri i nga korero. “I pehea to wiki? He mahere mo tenei wiki? Kua kite koe i te kiriata hou o Spielberg? ”
He korero iti, pono, engari kei te hiahia ia kia piri tonu koe ki te waa e taea ana. He pai ki a koe!
2. Nga kanohi kanohi
Me pehea e mohio ai koe mena he pai ki a koe taane?
Ana, mena kei te hiahia tetahi tangata ki a koe, tera pea ka titiro mai ia ki a koe i a koe e korero ana ki a koe. (Ehara tenei i te mea tika mo nga taangata tino whakama ranei, ko nga taane ranei e koretake ana ki te tirotiro kanohi o te nuinga.)
Ko te roa o te tirotiro kanohi kua kitea kua aroha te iwi.
Na, ki te pai ia ki a koe, ka roa tonu ona karu ki o kanohi, o kanohi me to waha. Ka ataata ia i a ia e whakarongo ana ki a koe e korero ana. Ka kite koe i te harikoa o tana titiro ki a koe, te whakawehi ia koe i roto.
Mena kaore ia e aro ki a koe, ka huri nga karu ki te roopu katoa i a ia e korero ana ki a koe ... peera kei te rapu ia mo “te mea pai e whai ake” he huarahi ranei hei wehe i nga korero.
3. Reo Tinana
He maha nga mea ka taea e koe te whakaatu mo te ahua o te taane mo koe te mātakitaki i te reo o tōna tinana i a koe e noho ana.
Ka huri atu ia ki a koe, kaore ka koki i tona tinana mai i a koe? E anga ana ona waewae ki a koe? Ko ana nekehanga e whakaatu ana i a koe, hei tauira, ki te whiti koe i ou waewae, ka whiti ia i tana waewae?
Ko enei mea iti katoa he "korero" me nga tohu kei te hiahia tetahi ki a koe. Ka kii atu ki a koe e pai ana ia ki a koe.
4. Te tono tono whakapiri me nga korero taapori
Ka patai ia mo to nama waea, mena ka taea e koe te whakahoahoa i runga i a Facebook, ka tukuna ranei e ia nga korero ki a koe na roto i to kaute Instagram.
Ko enei katoa he tohu e pai ana ki a koe.
Kei te hiahia ia whakatuwherahia etahi atu huarahi whakawhitiwhiti korero ki a koe. No reira mena ka patai atu ia ki a koe mo to nama waea pukoro, tatari kia tere tonu te tuhi korero! Mena ka hoa korua i runga i a Facebook, ka tiimata tana korero ki a koe i reira.
Kei te korero ia mo o pou Instagram me Facebook katoa? He tohu pai tera kei roto ia i a koe.
5. Te tika
Ko tetahi tohu e pai ana ki a koe e te taangata ka ui tika atu ia ki a koe mena kei te piri koe.
"He hoa taane koe" he tohu tino pai tenei kei te hiahia ia ki te whakaipoipo ki a koe. Kei te tirohia e ia te ahuatanga mena kei te watea koe, kei te waatea ranei koe.
Ka kii ana koe ki a ia kaore, ka whai pea koe i te korero "Engari he tino waatea ahau ki te uiui i nga kaitono hou mo te turanga!" i etahi atu powhiri takaro ranei hei whakaatu kei te hiahia koe ki a ia, ano!
6. Pa
Kei te miharo koe me pehea e mohio ai koe he pai te taane ki a koe?
Mena he pai ki a koe tetahi tama, ka kitea e ia nga momo huarahi mohio katoa kia pa atu ki a koe; e kore e taea e ia te awhina.
Akene ka pa atu ki to ringa i a ia e korero ana ki a koe, e whakakaha ana i tana korero. Akene ka horoia e ia he makawe ke i to mata. Ka tangohia pea e ia tou ringa, me te mea he kaipānui nikau ia.
Ki te hiahia mai tetahi taane ki a koe, he hiahia nui ki a ia kia pa atu ki a koe, kia tika te ahua.
Mena he tika tana pa, kia mahara ki te kii atu ki a ia kaore i te pai. Ahakoa e pai ana koe ki a ia, kaua ia e tukua kia uru atu ki to tinana kia kore ai koe e tau.
7. Te maumahara ki o korerorero
Ki te pai te taane ki a koe, ka whakairi ia ki nga mea iti katoa ka tohaina e koe ki a ia. Whai muri i a ia e korerorero ana ki a koe, ka huri tana korero ki roto i tona mahunga. Ma tenei ka tata atu koe ki a ia.
Na kaua e miharo mena ka tutaki ano koe, ka whai ia i tetahi korero i korero ai koe i te wa whakamutunga i korero ai koe.
Koinei tana huarahi whakaatu e whakarongo ana ia ki a koe, ana he tohu pai tena mo to whanaungatanga a meake nei.
8. He toha atu hei awhina i a koe
Mena he pai ki a koe e te tangata, ki te pai ranei te tama ki a koe, e hiahia ana ia ki te whakaatu ki a koe tona tautoko.
Kia maumahara, i nga tau kua hipa, i te wa e tuku ana tetahi tama ki te kawe pukapuka pukapuka kotiro mai i te kura? (He pehea te ataahua o tera momo whakakitenga?)
I enei ra, ko tana tono ki te awhina i a koe kia kaha ake te whai i te IT, penei i te awhina i a koe ki te whakatu i tetahi waahanga hou, i tetahi taakaro ranei ki to waea, ki te whirihora ranei i to rorohiko hou.
Ranei, mena kei te raru koe me tetahi akomanga, akene ka tukuna e ia tona pukenga me te awhina ki te awhina i a koe.
9. Ka whakamohio koe ki nga taangata whai mana ki a ia
Ko tetahi taangata e whakaatu ana ia koe ki tana roopu o nga hoa kei roto ia i a koe.
Kei te whakapehapeha ia kei te piri tahi koe me ia me te hiahia ki te whakaatu i a koe ki ona hoa. Te titau manihini ra anei oe ia oe i te fare e farerei i to ’na na metua?
He tino kino tana ki a koe!
Ko enei tohutohu 9 mo te whakaatu mena he pai ki te taane maau koe e awhina i a koe ki te panui i nga tohu e pai ana ki to tama me te whakaari i to haerenga aroha.