Toka Te Manawa
- He aha te tiaki i a koe ano?
- Hipanga 1: Me ata tirotiro i o mataku
- Hipanga 2: Whakaarohia mena ka whakawhirinaki koe ki to hoa
- Hipanga 3: Whakapuakihia o mataku me o awangawanga
- Hipanga 4: Tautuhia nga uara nui i roto i to marena
Ka noho ano koe ka hiahia kia rereke nga mea i roto i to marena? Kei te kite koe i te tautohetohe i nga wa katoa, i te pakanga-pakanga ranei, i mea ai to marenatanga kia tino ngoikore ake i te waa? Papu maitai, e tupu te mau peapea i roto i te faaipoiporaa; he taangata katoa taatau me o taatau ake whakaaro me o taatau hiahia. Heoi, he utu ki te mohio me pehea te whakahee i nga taangata me te tikanga e neke ana te mahi me te korerorero ki mua i roto i te marenatanga.
Kei te whakaaro pea koe me pehea e taea ai e koe te whakarereke i te tai, kia tiimata ranei te whakarereke i to hononga. Ana, ko tetahi waahi nui hei tiimata ma te tirotiro i to puku tiaki-whaiaro. Whakaarohia nga paatai e whai ake nei: 1) Ka tuwhera ranei ahau ki etahi atu momo mahi i roto i taku marena? 2) He ngawari taku riri, te whakararuraru ranei i te mea kaore au e aro atu? 3) Kei te mataku au ina kore ahau e kaha whakahaere i taku hononga me taku kaainga? 4) Me whai kiko taku korero kia wikitoria ahakoa te utu? Mena i whakautua e koe ki aua paatai, kaati he kaha pea koe ki te tiaki i a koe ano. Ahakoa he pai pea te tiaki i a koe ano, ki te kii kei te noho tahanga koe ka mataku koe i waihangahia i waenga o Amazon, ka kore pea e whai hua ana ka pakaru pea to marena!
He aha te tiaki i a koe ano?
Ko te papakupu Merriam-Webster e whakaatu ana i te tiaki i a ia ano "hei tiaki i a ia ano mai i te whakangaromanga, i te whara ranei" me "he maamaa noa, he whai kiko ranei ki te mahi kia ora ai ia ano." Na, ki te mau tonu koe i roto i te marenatanga kino, te hoa taane ranei, he tinihanga, he nanakia ranei, tiakina taku hoa. Heoi, ki te whakapono koe he pai te nuinga o to hoa ki te hiahia koe ki te whakapai ake i to marenatanga, me tino heke te taraiwa ki te pupuri i to noho. I roto i te marena Tuarua ka KOTAHI. He tino tangi? Akene koira, engari ka hono ana me te hoa matau kaore he mea nui, he whakangaro ranei. Ka maama ake te marena i te wa e ora ana nga hoa rangatira o tenei kaupapa "tokorua hei kotahi" tikanga. Kaore koe e noho hei hinonga takitahi ka oati koe. Mena he kino, he morearea ranei kei reira, ka tau te wehi ki te whakaraerae me te whakarereke (engari he kaupapa motuhake tera e tika ana mo tana ake pou korero!). Ka kotahi ana koe me to hoa rangatira, ka ngana koe ki te maarama ki nga mea e hiahiatia ana e korua ko to hoa hei roopu. Na ka neke whakamua koe ki te whakatutuki ngatahi. Engari ki te tiaki i o mea pai, manakohanga, taera, me o whakaaro, i etahi kaore e mutu 'ko ia tangata mo ia ake taakaro', ka tuku koe ki nga mea e tino pai ana mo te marena. Kei te maarama ahau he whakamataku pea te mana whakaraerae me te whakaweto. Akene kaore koe i te mohio me pehea te whanonga rereke i a koe e whanonga ana mo tenei taha.
Anei etahi waahanga hei whakawhiti mai i te tiaki SELF ki te tiaki US. Ka whakatauhia e au te tiakitanga a US mo te wairua whanake hei tiaki i to marenatanga mai i te whakangaromanga, i te kino ranei, tae atu ki te kino e pa ana ki a koe i te wa e mahi ana koe hei wairua mana whakahaere (ae, i kii ahau). Anei maatau ...
Hipanga 1: Me ata tirotiro i o mataku
Whakaarohia nga mea e mataku ana koe ka pa ki te ngawari koe ki te whakarereke i to marena.
Hipanga 2: Whakaarohia mena ka whakawhirinaki koe ki to hoa
Me whakatau mena e whakawhirinaki ana koe ki to hoa hei tangata pono, e rapu ana i nga painga nui mo te marena, e mohio ana ranei e ahei ana ki te whakaputa whakaaro me nga whakaaro whaihua. Ki te kore, he mahi tuuturu taau hei tirotiro i te take kaore koe e whakapono (kaore ranei) e whirinaki ki to hoa peera i aua huarahi.
Hipanga 3: Whakapuakihia o mataku me o awangawanga
Mahia kia taea ai e to hoa te maarama me pehea te awhina i o awangawanga me te whakatika i nga take.
Hipanga 4: Tautuhia nga uara nui i roto i to marena
Noho iho me to hoa ka whakaatu i nga uara nui e hiahia ana koe ki te pupuri i roto i to marena. Na tuhia nga kupu matua mo te whakauru kia taea ai e koe te korerorero i nga ahuatanga rereke o te tirohanga ma te whakaute, te aroha me te taangata ina tae mai te wa. Hei aha tiimata ai te Pakanga Tuatahi o te Ao ki to kaainga mena kaore e hiahiatia.
I kii a Gandhi ko te panoni e hiahia ana koe kia kite i te ao; Ko taku kii ko te whakarereketanga e hiahia ana koe kia kite i to marena. Ka tono atu ahau ki a koe kia whakamahia e koe nga mea i kite koe he pai ki te whakaata me te tiimata ki te huri i te tai o to marena. Kia whai mahara ra ano, kia kaha te aroha, kia pai to noho!