Toka Te Manawa
- He aha te aroha?
- He aha te mea nui kia mohio mena kei te aroha koe?
- Te rereketanga i waenga i te hiahia, te aroha, me te aroha
- Me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
- 16 tohu kei te aroha koe
- 1. Ka titiro tonu koe ki a raatau
- 2. Ka oho koe ka haere ki te moenga me o whakaaro mo ratau
- 3. Kei te teitei koe
- 4. Ka whakaaro pinepine koe mo tetahi
- 5. Kei te hiahia tonu koe kia kite i a raatau e hari ana
- 6. Kei te raru koe i te mutunga o te ra
- 7. Ka kitea e koe he hae
- 8. Ka whakaraupapa koe i a raatau ki etahi atu taumahi
- 9. Kei te aroha koe ki nga mea hou
- 10. Ka rere te waa i a koe i a raatau
- 11. Ka aroha koe ki a raatau
- 12. Kei te huri ke koe mo te pai ake
- 13. Arohaina e koe a raatau mahi
- 14. Ka whakaarohia e koe he mea kei te heke mai
- 15. Kei te hiahia koe ki te tata o to tinana
- 16. He ngawari te noho ki a ratou
- Roropi
Kaore he mea whakamere atu i te ahua o te hinga o tetahi. Ko nga purerehua i to puku, ko te wawata kia korero koe kia noho tahi ranei, me te hiahia ohorere ki te kimi huarahi hou e whakamiharo ai.
Ka tiimata ana koe ki te hinga mo tetahi, ka tino rereke nga kare a roto, ana ka puta he kare e kaha ki te whakaputa.
Ana ahakoa te ahua kei te aroha koe, kaore i te kii he aroha. Engari me pehea e mohio ai koe ki te aroha ki tetahi, ki te tino aroha ranei? Me korero tonu kia mohio ai koe.
He aha te aroha?
He aha te iwi ka miharo ai he aha te tikanga o te aroha, he aha te ahua o te aroha, me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
He maha nga huarahi i tautuhia ai te aroha.
Ko te papakupu o Oxford e whakaatu ana i te aroha "Ko te ahua o te kaha me te pai o te kare a roto me te hinengaro, mai i te tino rangatira, te wairua pai ranei, te tino whanaungatanga a tangata, tae atu ki nga mea ngawari noa."
I tautuhia e nga Kariki tawhito nga momo aroha e whitu, ara: Storge, Philia, Eros, Agape, Ludus, Pragma, me Philautia.
Ka taea hoki te whakatau i te aroha hei ahuatanga maori kaore e taea e taatau te whakahau, te whakahau ranei. Ka taea e taatau te whakaae engari kaore e taea te whakahaere; he kare tino hohonu ka nui atu i etahi atu.
He aha te mea nui kia mohio mena kei te aroha koe?
Ka rite ki etahi atu kare kare he kare, he mohio, mena he aroha koe ki tetahi kaore ranei he mea nui.
Ehara i te mea ngawari te noho i roto i te ahuatanga kaore e mohio ana koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi, kaore ranei.
Akene kei roto koe i tetahi ahuatanga e kii ana tetahi i to raatau whakamoemiti ki a koe; heoi, kaore koe e mohio mena kua tino rite koe ki te whakautu ki ena kare a roto.
Akene ko te tangata e koropiko ana koe ki te neke ki tetahi hononga ki tetahi atu, me whakaatu e koe o kare a mua i te paahitanga o te hokinga mai.
Heoi, me pehea e mohio ai koe he pono, he pumau, he whai mana te mea e ite koe?
Ko te aroha he nui ake i etahi atu whakaaro e pa ana ki a tatou i roto i o taatau koiora.
He mea e hangai ana i o taatau ao, ka neke haere te ao, ka tiimata nga whanau.
No reira, he mea nui ki te maarama mena ko to whakaaro he tino aroha he momo ahua moemoea ranei.
Te rereketanga i waenga i te hiahia, te aroha, me te aroha
Ko te hiahia, ko te whakaipoipo, ko te aroha he uaua ki te wehe, ina koa i o raatau tiimata. Kei te whakaatu wawe mai ratau i nga ahuatanga i taua wa tonu, mo nga rautau, e whakapohehe ana i te tangata.
Heoi, he tino rere ke tetahi i tetahi, me maarama tatou ki taua rereketanga kia kore ai e whakatau i nga whakatau ka tatarahapa pea tatou.
Ko te hiahia ko te ngakau hinengaro e whakaputa ana i te hiahia nui mo tetahi mea, mo tetahi tangata ranei. He mana kaha me te wa poto e kii ana kia whakatutukihia me te kore he take, he whaikorero ranei.
Ka rite ki te hiahia, ko te kukume ko te kare ano hoki e akiaki i a tatou ki te hiahia koretake, i te nuinga o te waa ki tetahi atu kua kaha te ngakau o tetahi.
Ko te rereketanga kei roto i te meka ko te aroha ka puawai tonu ki te aroha, engari ko te hiahia he hiahia pipiri anake ki te whakatutuki i taau e hiahia ana.
I tetahi atu, ko te aroha he kaiwhakatakoto i te whanaungatanga takitahi a kua honoa ki te tino kukume me te piri o te whatumanawa.
Kia maarama ake ai te rereketanga i waenga i te aroha me te hiahia ka mau ki te 'Kei te Aroha ahau he paatai hiahia ranei?'
Ano hoki, tirohia te korero TED e whai ake nei kei reira a Takuta Terri Orbuch he ahorangi mo te hapori i te Whare Wananga o Oakland me tetahi ahorangi rangahau i te Institute for Social Research i te Whare Waananga o Michigan e korerorero ana i nga tohu hei wehewehe i waenga i te hiahia me te aroha, me pehea te whakakii i taua hiahia hiahia. i roto i te aroha ki nga hononga mo te wa roa.
Me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
Ko te mohio mena kua hinga to aroha kaore pea he uaua. Ka maarama te nuinga, kaore pea te nuinga i te waa ki te kii. Engari me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
Kia mohio ai koe ki te aroha pono, me matua tirotirohia e koe te ahua o te tangata i arohaina e koe, e kirimana ana koe ki a koe hei taonga, hei tangata ranei. Ko te aroha te kare-a-roto e whakaae ana koe ki nga kohakore o te tangata me te kore e tono kia pena ano.
Ehara ko te ahua o te rangatira; i tua atu, he ahuatanga o te tuku tino kore na te mea e tino whakaae ana koe ki taua tangata mo wai ia kaore e hiahia ana kia utua tetahi mea.
He tino tangi? Na te mea koira, koina te take ka taea e te nuinga o tatou ki te whakatutuki i roto i o taatau whanaungatanga te whakakotahitanga o te hiahia, te aroha, me te aroha.
Na, ka hoki ano taatau ki te patai kotahi, me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
Waimarie, he rereketanga nga huarahi a to tinana hei whakaatu atu ki a koe mena kei te aroha koe ki tetahi kaore ranei.
Hei awhina i a koe ki te maarama he pehea te ahua o te aroha, ko te waahanga e whai ake nei te whakaatu i etahi tohu kei te aroha koe.
16 tohu kei te aroha koe
Kei raro nei nga huarahi e taea ai e koe te kii he aroha koe ki tetahi:
1. Ka titiro tonu koe ki a raatau
Ka roa e tiro ana koe ki a raatau mo te wa roa, katahi ka waiho hei tohu kei te aroha koe ki taua tangata.
I te nuinga o te waa, ko te tirotiro kanohi ka tohu koe kei te hiahia koe ki tetahi mea.
Mena he maha nga wa e tiro ana koe ki tetahi, me mohio koe kua kitea e koe he hoa aroha.
Kua whakaatuhia e nga rangahau ko nga hoa ka kite i a ratau ano e tiro ana tetahi ki tetahi, he hononga whaiipoipo. Ana, he tika tera. Kaore e taea e koe te tiro atu ki tetahi atu mena kaore o whakaaro ki a ia.
2. Ka oho koe ka haere ki te moenga me o whakaaro mo ratau
Me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
I a koe e aroha ana, he maha nga wa ka whakaaro koe mo te tangata e atawhaihia ana e koe, engari ko te mea nui, koinei to whakaaro tuatahi i te ata me to whakaaro whakamutunga i mua i te moenga.
Ano hoki, ka puta o whakaaro aroha ki tetahi, koira ano hoki te tangata tuatahi e whakaaro ana koe ki te tohatoha i nga purongo.
3. Kei te teitei koe
I etahi wa ka uaua ki te mohio kei te aroha koe ki tetahi kaore ranei. Koina te take ka piri ai te nuinga o te iwi ki te patai, me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi.
I te nuinga o nga wa, ka aroha ana koe ki tetahi, ka teitei koe, a he mea noa tenei ma te katoa.
He rangahau e ngana ana ki te aromatawai i nga ritenga i waenga i te tarukino me te aroha whaiāipo i kitea he maha nga ritenga i waenga i te timatanga o te aroha aroha me te raau taero.
Na, mena kaore koe e mohio he aha koe i mahi pai ai, koinei te take - kua aroha koe.
4. Ka whakaaro pinepine koe mo tetahi
Ka tiimata ana te aroha ki etahi, kaore pea - kaore koe e mutu te whakaaro mo ratou.
Ko te take ka whakaaro tonu koe mo to hoa aroha hou ko to roro ka tukuna te phenylethylamine - e mohiotia ana i etahi wa ko te "tarukino aroha."
Ko te Phenylethylamine he homoni hei awhina ki te hanga i te kare a waenganui o korua ko to hoa.
Mena kaore koe i mohio ki tenei, akene me mohio koe. Ko te Phenylethylamine ka kitea i roto i te tiakarete e pai ana koe.
Na, mena ka kai koe i te tiakarete ia ra, koinei pea te take ka kore e mutu te whakaaro mo to hoa hou.
5. Kei te hiahia tonu koe kia kite i a raatau e hari ana
I runga i te tikanga, ko te aroha kia rite. Mena kua aroha ke koe ki tetahi, ka hiahia koe kia hari ratou i nga wa katoa.
Ana, akene mena kaore koe i mohio, ko te aroha atawhai he tohu kei te uru atu koe ki tetahi hononga hauora. Ko te tikanga ka taea e koe te mahi i nga mea katoa kia mohio kei te koa to hoa i nga wa katoa.
No reira, ki te mea kei te whakareri koe i te tina mo to hoa rangatira i te mea e pukumahi ana ia i ana mahi, me mohio koe kua aroha koe.
6. Kei te raru koe i te mutunga o te ra
I te nuinga o nga wa, ko te aroha ka hono ki nga kare rorirori, engari i etahi wa i etahi wa, ka raru koe.
Ka aroha ana koe, ka tukuna e to roro te homoni e kiia ana karawaka, e whakapouri ai koe.
No reira, mena ka mohio koe kei te haere wawe koe, ka mohio raatau na to hononga hou. Engari kaua e mutu na taua mea noa. Ko te ahotea he mea noa i roto i te whanaungatanga.
7. Ka kitea e koe he hae
Ko te aroha ki tetahi ka taea te tiri i te hae, ahakoa kaore pea koe i te tangata hae i te nuinga. Ko te aroha ki tetahi e hiahia ana koe kia noho takitahi koe, no reira he ahua hae te mea noa, mena kaore e paku.
8. Ka whakaraupapa koe i a raatau ki etahi atu taumahi
Ko te noho taima me to hoa aroha tetahi mea pai ki a ia ano, no reira kua tiimata e koe te whakaraupapa i a raatau i etahi atu mahi.
Ka noho ana koe ki a raatau, ka kii to kopu, "Kei te aroha ahau ki tenei ahua" me te hiahia nui, me te akiaki i a koe ki te whakarereke i o mahere ka tuu ki runga.
9. Kei te aroha koe ki nga mea hou
Ka hinga ana to aroha, ka kite koe i a koe e mahi ana i nga mea kaore ano kia whakamahia e koe. Hei tauira, mena kaore koe i pai ki te matakitaki whutupaoro, ka taea e to hoa hou te awe i a koe ki te tiimata ki te matakitaki.
Mena ka mohio koe kei te hoatuhia e koe te ora, kaua e awangawanga na te mea kei te aroha noa koe.
10. Ka rere te waa i a koe i a raatau
Kua noho ngatahi korua i te mutunga o te wiki, ka oho ake koe i te ata o te Mane ka whakaaro pehea te rere o nga ra e rua?
I a tatou e karapoti ana i te tangata e arohaina ana e taatau, kua uru nui taatau ki tenei waa, ka pau noa nga haora kaore e aro.
11. Ka aroha koe ki a raatau
Mena kei te aroha koe ki tetahi, kei te ngakau maharahara koe me te haere ki te awhina i to hoa.
He maamaa te mahi i a raatau na te mea e hiahia ana koe kia pai o ratau, a ka kite koe i o raatau awangawanga.
12. Kei te huri ke koe mo te pai ake
Ko te nuinga o te iwi e kii ana, 'Ki taku whakaaro he aroha ahau' ina he wairua ke ta tetahi atu o a raatau ki te waiho hei ahua pai ake mo ratau ano.
Ko te tikanga kei te hihiri koe ki te whakarereke na te mea e hiahia ana koe, ahakoa e whakaae mai ana koe ki a koe.
13. Arohaina e koe a raatau mahi
He taatai motuhake nga taangata katoa. Na, ka aroha koe ki tetahi, ka mohio koe kua kowhiri koe i etahi ahuatanga ka motuhake ia, ana he mea noa.
Ka tiimata to whakaaro me te hiahia koe ki te pee me pehea e korero ana, me pehea te hikoi, ana me pehea pea te tarai i nga kata.
Ko enei mea ka mau tonu te hononga. Ae ra, kaore pea i te ahua taumaha, engari he kino ki to whanaungatanga.
14. Ka whakaarohia e koe he mea kei te heke mai
Ko te wa e mohio ana te nuinga o te iwi me te whakaae 'Ki taku whakaaro he aroha ahau' ka kite ratau ki te whakarite mahere mo a muri ake nei me te whiriwhiri muna i nga ingoa o nga tamariki.
Na, me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi?
Ki te whakautu i tena, paatai ki a koe ano, kua tiimata taau, a ki tehea waahanga, e whakaaro tahi ana koe mo to heke mai.
15. Kei te hiahia koe ki te tata o to tinana
mena kei te hiahia koe ki te mohio kei te aroha koe i mua i to putanga mai me te "Ki taku whakaaro he aroha ahau," akohia te hiahia pa-a-tinana me to hoa.
Ahakoa he pai ki a maatau te awhi me te tata ki nga taangata e arohaina ana e maatau, penei i nga hoa me te whanau, i te wa e aroha ana, he rereke te ahua o te hiahia ki te whakapiri tinana.
Ka pau i a koe, ka rapu koe i nga mea angitu kia piri ai koe ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe.
16. He ngawari te noho ki a ratou
Ko nga hononga ka haere mai me ana ake momo pakanga me nga tautohe. Kaore he huarahi huri noa.
Heoi, i te aroha, ko te mea nui te hononga, kaua ko to whakapehapeha.
No reira, ahakoa ka takatakahi koe i etahi wa, kaore i te uaua te pupuri o to hononga, a he pai ki a koe te uru atu.
Roropi
Ko te patai tenei: me pehea e mohio ai koe e aroha ana koe ki tetahi e raru tonu ana i a koe? Ko te mohio mena kua aroha koe ki tetahi atu he uaua tonu, engari ka taea e koe te whakaatu me nga tohu katoa o runga.