Toka Te Manawa
- Me aha koe ina kore e pai to whanau ki to taumau
- Kaua e korero ki to hoa
- Homai he wa
- Rapua he aha
- Korero ki to whanau mo taua mea
- Me hoki whakamuri
- A faaitoito i te hononga
Ki te whakapono koe kua kitea e koe te "Kotahi" ka tino pouri ka iti ake to whanau i te ngakau nui mo to hoa pai. Ahakoa ko te wahine tino motuhake, ka ngau pea ona niho ki te whakaaro kei te kite tonu tona whanau i tana rangatira rangatira e ataahua ana hei kakahu kino. Na, ka aha koe ina kore e whakaae to whanau ki te tangata ka marena e koe?
Ki te kore e pai to whanau ki te taane e marena ana koe, ka raru pea. Hei tauira, akene ka rewa te whanau. Ma te rereketanga o te whanau ka raruraru ai te ngakau, ka mamae katoa hoki nga taha. E whakapono ana to whanau kei te mohio ratou he aha te mea pai ki a koe, ana ko to whakaaro ka noho koe ki te taha o to hoa ahakoa nga whakaaro ka raru pea raatau. I to mutunga, ka whakaaro koe kei te ruia e ratau te hoa taumau, kei te whakahonore ranei raatau i au whakatau ka pakeke.
Ki te mohio kaore to whanau e aro ki to hoa taumau, ka tau pea ia ki te hara mo tana whakanoho i waenga o korua ko o matua. Akene ka kite ia i te koretake o te uara, te awangawanga, ka riri noa ranei ia. Ma tenei ka raru to whanaungatanga aroha. Whakamātauria te whakamahere marena i te mea kei te raru te raruraru i waenga i te tokorua, ka pa he parekura ki a koe me tatari!
Tūtohutia - Akoranga Maatauranga o mua
Me aha koe ina kore e pai to whanau ki to taumau
Ko te marena tetahi o whakatau nui rawa atu i roto i to koiora, me te kii i to whanau ki reira ki te whakaatu i to raatau aroha me to tautoko he huarahi pai ki te tiimata i to ao hei tane me te wahine. Engari, ko te mohio kaore ratou e whakaae, kaore hoki e tae ki to uniana ka tino kino rawa atu.
Mena kei roto koe i tenei ahuatanga uaua, katahi koe ka mohio he tino raruraru, he mamae, he ahua mutunga kore hoki.He mea nui kia tae wawe ki nga pito o nga mea ka taea e koe. Ki te kore, ka raru pea koe ki te wehewehe i to whanau me te awangawanga nui ki o whanaungatanga aroha.
Anei me mahi mena kaore te whanau e pai ki to taane e marena ana koe.
Kaua e korero ki to hoa
Ma te mohio he pono kaore ou matua e pai ki to hoa kaore koe i te tikanga me hamama mai i nga tuanui. Ko te korero ki to hoa taumau kaore to whanau e pai ki a ia ka kino noa atu te ahuatanga. Engari, ka hiahia pea koe ki te whakamarama atu ki to hoa rangatira he tino paruru o ou maatua ana ka aroha koe ki a ia ki te whakamatau me te hono ki a ratau ki te whakatinana i a raatau kei roto koe i te whanaungatanga aroha.
Homai he wa
I etahi wa he miharo ano ki to whanau te rongonga mo te hononga hou, ina koa kaore ano kia tutaki ki to hoa marena. Ko etahi kaore e pai ki te whakarereke. Mo enei, ka roa ke atu ki te whakaputa i nga kare-a-roto ki te mema hou o te whanau. Kaua e akiaki i tetahi mutunga ki to whanau, ki to hoa ranei. Ma tenei ka kino noa ake te ahua. Homai he waa kia kite me pehea e uru ai to tangata ki roto i te whanau hou.
Rapua he aha
Ko te ako he aha te take e kore ai e pai to whanau ki to hoa ka awhina i a koe ki te mohio me pehea te pai o te arahi i a raatau ki te whanaungatanga pai. I taka mai tetahi raruraru i waenga i to taane me o matua? Ko etahi o nga marena kua whakarerea ka whakaaro ko to hononga ka tino harikoa penei i a raua. Inaa hoki, he maha nga momo take, he whaitake, he whaitake hoki, he aha pea kaore ai e pai to whanau ki to hoa rangatira.
Akene kaore o matua i pai ki te mahi a to taumau, tana waiaro, ana whanonga o mua, ana tikanga kino. Akene ka marena koe ka neke atu koe ki te taha o ia me te kore o ou matua e aro ki tenei whakaaro. Akene kei te tumanako tonu raatau kia hoki mai koe ki te taha o te ingoa-tona-ingoa mai i te ono tau ki muri. Ahakoa he aha o raatau whakaaro, mena kaore te whanau e pai ki to hoa rangatira, ko to whakaaro nui ki te whakaaro he aha.
Korero ki to whanau mo taua mea
Ko te whakawhitinga korero te putake mo tetahi hononga pai, tae atu ki te hononga me to whanau. Whakatata atu ki to whanau i te taha muna me te paatai ki a raatau mo a raatau raru me to hoa rangatira. He pai te ao ki te whakarongo ki a ratau ka whai waahi ki te whakamarama ki a raatau i nga take katoa e aroha ana koe ki to taane me te aha i tika ai te whiu i a ia.
Korerohia ki to whanau he pehea tana manaaki i a koe i te kare a roto, i te taha tinana hoki, korero mo nga tawai kei roto i a koe me nga huarahi i tautoko ai tetahi i tetahi. Kia tuwhera ki o raatau taha me te whakatau i o raatau awangawanga. Ma tenei pea ka rereke nga whakaaro pohehe kei a raatau pea mo ia.
Me hoki whakamuri
Mena kaore te whanau e pai ki to taane e marena ana koe, he mea pai tonu te neke whakamuri ki te tirotiro he aha ai. Kei te kite to whanau i tetahi mea kaore pea nga karu o te aroha e whakaae ki a koe? Akene kei te whakahaerehia e ia, te whakaatu i te hae kino, kei te whakakore ranei i o whaainga me o hoa. He haki whero nui enei kaore pea koe e kite i tenei waa.
A faaitoito i te hononga
Ko te whakaaro kua haehae i waenga i to whanau me to hoa aroha he rite ki te piri i waenga o te kamaka me te wahi pakeke. Kaore to whanau e powhiri ki te manaaki i tenei tangata ki o raatau ao mena kaore ratou i kite i a ia.
Hangaia nga ahuatanga ka taea e koe te whakakotahi me te mohio tetahi ki tetahi. Ka uru pea tenei ki tetahi mea ohorere penei i te kawhe o te ahiahi ki tetahi mea e pakari ake ana penei i te whakamahere haerenga haerenga me to whanau me to taumau. Whai muri i etahi haerenga, ka mohio pea to whanau he nui ake tana ngahau i ta ratau i whakaaro ai.
Kei te hiahia koe kia harikoa to whanau ki to whakatau ko wai ka marenatia, engari ko te mutunga, ko te mea pai ake ko te mea kino ranei, ko to whakatau koira. Mena he aroha, he whakaute hoki ki a koe, ka roa ka manako to whanau ki to hoa i roto i o raatau ao. Kia tae ra ano, kia koa kua kitea e koe te aroha o to koiora.