Toka Te Manawa
- Nga taapiri hiahia mo te wahine motuhake i roto i te hononga
- Me whakaute koe i te wahine motuhake i to hononga
- Tu ki tona taha
- A faaamu i to waahine kaha
Ko te pakanga mo te taurite, te tika o nga waahine me te utu rite mo te mahi taurite kua tino awe i te tauritetanga o te whanaungatanga. I tenei wa he whakatupuranga waahine taatau kua ako mai i o raatau tauira tauira wahine kia tu motuhake, kia kaha ki te pupuri i o raatau wahine i runga i te ahua nanakia me te koretake.
He aha te tikanga o tera mo nga hononga kei te heke mai? Ka miharo pea koe ki te mohio kei te hiahia nga waahine motuhake ki te aroha me te aroha penei i a tatou katoa. Mo koutou e aroha ana ki a raatau, ka wero tenei ki te whakatau me pehea te poipoi i to hoa wahine motuhake motuhake.
Anei te pakeke 101 mo te hanga hononga hauora hei wahine motuhake i roto i te whanaungatanga.
Nga taapiri hiahia mo te wahine motuhake i roto i te hononga
Kei i a tatou katoa etahi mea e hiahiatia ana mai i o tatou hoa kia mohio ai he mea aroha tatou, he mea nui hoki. He rereke enei hiahia mai i tera tangata ki tera tangata. Ko te mea hei mahi ma korua ko te hoa wahine pakari, me tino whakarongo koe ki to hoa. Mena he tuwhera koe ki a ia, ka whakaatu ia ka whakaatu ki a koe he aha nga mea e hiahiatia ana e ia mai i a koe.
Mena he wahine kaha, he wahine-tuuturu to hoa, akene kua kite koe i etahi raru o te whanaungatanga wahine motuhake. Ko tetahi o ratou ko te pai ki a ia ki te manaaki i ona kare a roto me ona kare ano. Kaore ia i te rata ki te tuku i ona kare a roto. Heoi, me whakaae koe ki a ia me ona pakitara. Mena ka whakawhirinaki ia ki a koe ka rua pea ana mahi ka haere mai ia ki te tiimata kia pakaru tana pakitara kare ano kia tuku koe ki roto.
Ko te wahine motuhake i roto i te whanaungatanga kaore pea e hiahiatia te nui o te tautoko kare a roto i te tangata e kaha ake ana te whakawhirinaki, engari ka hiahia pea ia ki te pa o tona tinana, me te hiahia kia nui te awhi me te pa. Akene he nui ake nga mea e hiahiatia ana e ia i te wa e tukuna ana e ia ki te ao, ana ka whakaatu atu ki a koe anake.
Kei te patai koe, "me pehea te whakahaere i te wahine whai mana pakari?" Kia maumahara ki nga mea pakari o taatau me tuku i taatau kaitiaki me te whakawhirinaki ki tetahi atu i tetahi waa.
I etahi wa ara ko te wahine tino motuhake i roto i te whanaungatanga ka hiahia ki te whakaraerae kia waiho koe hei "tino kaha". Mena he mea nui ki a ia te mana rite i roto i te hononga, me mahara koe ki tena. Kia mahara ki o whakaaro me ona whakaaro ki o whakatau katoa, kaua e kii kei te mohio koe ki tana e hiahia ana, kia hiahia ranei ia, korero atu ki a koe.
Akene me nui ake te maioha ki a ia, kaore ano tatou katoa? Na te mea ko to hoa taangata he tangata tuuturu me te ahei, ehara i te kii kaore ia e pai ki te whakarongo ki a koe e kii atu ana ki a ia he pai ki a ia mo ana mahi.
Me pehea te poipoi i to wahine mena he wahine motuhake ia? Ka taea e koe te whakanui i a ia ano he tangata pakari, he hoa kaha me to taangata mohio, i te wa e atawhai ana koe i a ia ano he kuini me te wahine tino nui i roto i to koiora.
Me whakaute koe i te wahine motuhake i to hononga
Kaua e whakahawea, e tautoko, e tango ranei ia mo tetahi mea nui.
Hoatu ki a ia te whakaute e tika ana mo ia. Kaare pea i te ki atu ki a ia kia "whakaarahia" kia ngoikore ranei i roto i tona ao. Akene kua korerohia ia he nui rawa atu, he tane ranei. Koina noa te BS.
Kia mohio, kia whakaute i te wahine motuhake i roto i te hononga ki a koe na te mea ko ia te tangata tino maere, ataahua, uri o te natura ko ia ano ka whakapehapeha kua tohua koe e koe hei hoa ora. Kaore ia e hiahia ki a koe, kei te hiahia ia ki a koe. Me tutaki ki a ia kei hea ia, ka noho tahi korua hei wahine kaha.
Tu ki tona taha
Ko tetahi mea pai mo te waahine kaha hei hoa taau mo te koiora ko to korua herekore ki te noho rangatira. Ko te wahine motuhake i roto i te whanaungatanga kaore i te ngana ki te whakarereke i a koe na te mea kei te mau tona wairua.
He tino hoa koe ki a ia e harikoa ana ki te tu ki tona taha hei taurite. Ko te whiwhi i taua momo tautoko me te whakahoahoa he mea nui ki te whai hononga aroha. Mena he rite taau takirua, ka whakakorea e koe te tini o nga whakaari i roto i to hononga. Ka kite korua i a korua ano hei taonga i roto i te koiora o tena, me te anga whakamua ki te hanga i tetahi koiora e hiahia ana korua kia moemoea hoki.
A faaamu i to waahine kaha
Hangaia to kaainga hei nohoanga haumaru mo te wahine whanau kore e piri ana ki a koe.
Ko te noho ki a koe te waahi ka taea e ia te herekore ki te noho me te tuku i a ia kia whakaraerae. Hoatu ki a ia te waahi e hiahiatia ana e ia ki te mahi takitahi i ana taonga me te hiahia ki te takahi i a ia e hiahia ana koe kia noho koe hei poari tangi, tuku tohutohu me te hoa awhina me te poipoi.
Tukuna kia mohio ia ahakoa ka mohio koe he kaha tana ki a ia ano, kei reira tonu koe ki te whakawhirinaki mena ka kite ia i te hiahia. Ko koe te tauranga ahuru, te tauranga i roto i te tupuhi, a ko to kaainga te waahi ka taea e ia te noho noa me te kore hei whakaatu, kaore he mea hei whakaatu; tika whakaae ma me te manaaki poipoi.