Toka Te Manawa
- No te aha e mea faufaa te aparauraa?
- Whakawhitiwhiti korero hei kokonga
- Nga Momo Whakawhiti korero i roto i te Marena
- Whakawhiti korero
- Te korerorero korero kore
- Nga mahi a-tinana
Kia takaro tatou i tetahi keemu. Mena i uru koe ki tetahi waahi whanui me te tiimata ki te patai ki nga taangata ke he aha te mea nui o te marena ko te ... he aha to whakaaro?
Aroha? Whirinaki? Pono? Ae ra, he mea nui enei katoa. Engari ko tetahi take e ahua korerohia ana he iti ake whakawhitinga korero (ironical, matau?). Ko te huarahi e korerorero ai te tokorua kua marenatia a ratau take, mena ka korerohia e ratau tetahi mea, he mea nui ki te marena pumau me te whakatutukitanga. Mena kei te whakaaro tonu koe he aha te take nui o te korerorero i roto i te whanaungatanga, he aha ranei te hiranga o te korero mo te tokorua kua marenatia, panuihia.
No te aha e mea faufaa te aparauraa?
Ko te mea nui o te korerorero i roto i te marenatanga kaore e aro nui i te mea he maha nga marena e whakaaro ana ko te tawai o ia ra, ko te kore ranei e pa ki a ratau i ia ra. Engari ko te whakawhitiwhiti korero te waka e tutuki ai etahi atu waahanga nui o te marena. Mena he aroha koe ki tetahi, engari kaore e whakamahia e koe o kupu me o mahi hei whakaputa korero, kaore koe i te tika na to hoa. Mena ka whakawhirinaki koe ki tetahi, whakamohio atu. Whakawhiti atu ki a raatau. Mena ka taea e koe te korero pono, ka pai te marena me te hauora o to marena. Inaa hoki, ko te mea nui o te whakawhitiwhiti korero me whakaaro tika mai i nga ra o te whakaipoipo i te mea koinei te turanga tika o te hononga.
Ko te korerorero a te tane me te wahine tuwhera te kokonga o tetahi marena roa me te aroha.Ko te raru ko etahi kaore noa i te pai. Me whakapau he wa ki te maarama ki te hiranga o te korerorero i roto i te marena me te tiro he aha nga momo korero mo te marenatanga ka puta te ahua o te marenatanga kaha me te manaaki.
Whakawhitiwhiti korero hei kokonga
Ko te aroha, te whakawhirinaki, te pono, me nga ahuatanga nui katoa o te marena kaha kaore i te whai kiko ki a raatau ano. Na te whakapuakitanga o enei mea ka hua te marena hei hae. Whakaatu ana e te aroha, whakaatu to whakawhirinaki, a whakatangitangi pono ko te wahi te makutu. Ko te taea ki te korero ko te nui o te tikanga o tau wahine ki a koe ko te wahi e pai ai to marena.
Ko te whakawhitiwhiti korero ehara i te korero noa, ahakoa. He korero korero, korero kore korero, me nga mahi a-tinana ka taea te waiho i raro i te maru o te whakawhitinga korero. Me titiro e taatau nga momo korero rereke hei awhina i a korua ki te mohio ki te hiranga o te korero i roto i te marenatanga me te tikanga pai ake.
Nga Momo Whakawhiti korero i roto i te Marena
Whakawhiti korero
He pai ki nga taangata katoa te rongo he ataahua ratou. He pai ki nga taangata katoa te whakarongo kei te arohaina ratou. Ko te korero korero, ko te kaha ki te whakaputa i o whakaaro ki to hoa rangatira ma nga kupu e korero ana koe, he mea nui hei korero whaihua.
Mena he aroha koe ki tetahi ma o ngakau katoa, engari kaore e paku ana te korero, kaore pea te tangata ke e mohio he pehea te hohonu o te aroha. Mena he mauruuru koe ki to hoa rangatira, engari kaua e korero mo taua mea, he iti ake te uara o taua mauruuru. Ma te taea ki te korero ki to hoa rangatira te pai o te tangata ka mohio ratou he aroha, he maioha, he whakapiri atu ki o whakaaro. Ko taua momo korero he mea nui ki te hononga mo te wa roa. No reira ki te maarama koe ki te nui o te korero i roto i te marena, kaore koe e pai ki te korero korero ki to hoa.
Me nga whakaaturanga o te koa, me kaha ki te korero mo nga mea kaore koe e koa. Ko te korerorero i waenga i nga marena te mea nui hei hari mo te marenatanga. Mena kei te mahi to hoa rangatira i tetahi mea e awangawanga ana ki a koe, engari ka noho puku koe mo tenei kaupapa, ko to kore korero me to whakawhirinaki ka waiho noa iho te mahi. Kaore e taea e koe te haere me to hoa rangatira, to hoa rangatira ranei, ki te pupuri i o mauiui katoa. Ko te tuku atu he mea tika, he hauora hoki mo to hononga. Me mahi tenei ma te ngakau mohio me te mahana, engari kaua e tatari kia roa te wa ki te korero i tetahi mea e hiahia ana koe. Ko te koretake o te korero i roto i te marenatanga, ina koa ko te korero, ka nui te mate ki te hauora hinengaro o nga hoa e rua.
Te korerorero korero kore
Kua korero katoa taatau i tetahi mea ki tetahi hoa, mema o te whanau, hoa rangatira ranei i tutaki ki te ahua kino o te kanohi. Kaore taua tangata i whai kupu, engari he korero ta ratau me o raatau kanohi. Ehara ko te whakakii kanohi anake. He maha nga mea e kiia ana e taatau nga taangata me o taatau tinana nui atu i ta tatou e kii nei.
Ka korero ana maatau mo te nui o te korerorero i roto i te marena, kaore e taea e taatau te whakaputa korero kore korero. Kia maarama ki te whakawhitiwhiti korero a to reo a-tinana me to hoa. Mena kua kihi koe ka katia ka ngana ana kia korerorero nui, ka kore e mohio to hoa kaore he ngoikore. Me anga atu ki to hoa taane me to wahine kia noho tuwhera to reo tinana i a koe e korerorero uaua ana. Kaore he whakawhiti waewae. Kaore he whakawhiti ringa. Me whakaatu e to tinana to hoa rangatira kei te tuwhera koe ki te whakarongo ki ta raatau e kii ana ka pai ki te whakatutuki.
He nui nga tohu kore korero e rite ana ki te tu katia e korero kino ana, e pai ana ranei ki to hoa kaore he kupu hei whakawhiti. Kia kaha ake te whakaaro me te whakaaro mo te ahua o to tinana ki te whakaputa i o kare a roto. Ko te nui o te whaihua o te korero a te tane me te wahine kaore e taea te whakariterite. Ki te korero iti ake, ka waiho pea hei pivot nui ki te-piki haere i te maha o nga ahuatanga papau.
Nga mahi a-tinana
Te mahi tina. Te haere ki te toa toa. Te tango i nga paru. Haere ki te oma aihikiriimi mo to wahine hapu.
Ko enei katoa ehara i te mea e ki ana koe; he mea e mahi ana koe e whakaatu ana ki to hoa rangatira kei te whakaaro nui koe ki a raatau. I a koe e mahi ana i enei mahi iti me te whai whakaaro, kei te whakaputa koe i to aroha mo a raatau me te kore e paku korero. Ka korero ana taatau mo te hiranga o te korerorero i roto i te whanaungatanga, ko nga mahi a tinana nei he mahi tino roa ki nga hoa faaipoipo kaore pea i te tino pai ki te korero korero.
Ko te kupu "nui ake te korero a nga mahi i nga kupu" e tika ana ki tenei momo korero. Ka taea pea e koe te korero ki to hoa wahine he aroha koe ki a ia kia tae ra ano koe ki te kikorangi o te kanohi, engari kaore pea e paku atu ki te horoi i te whare, te huri ranei i te hinu i roto i tana motuka. Ka taea e koe te whakamoemiti ki to hoa rangatira, engari ko te mahi tina mo ia, tera pea he kaha ake i te "E aroha ana ahau ki a koe".
Ko te hiranga o te korerorero i roto i te marena kaore e taea te aro nui. Ko nga ara tuwhera o te whakawhitinga korero e whakarite ana kia iti ake te maarama, me te awhina ki te whakawhanake i te whanaungatanga i roto i te tikanga pai.
He mea nui te whakawhitiwhitinga korero kia pai ai to marena, engari kaore e taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tetahi o nga ara e toru kua whakarārangitia i runga ake nei. Ka tika te toenga o te tokotoru ki te whakaatu ki to hoa rangatira te nui o te tikanga ki a koe i te wa e haere ana te wa.
Korero atu ki to hoa rangatira taau e aroha ana mo raua, engari kaua e wehi ki te whakaputa i to whakaaro mena he mea kei te raru koe. Ko tera korero korero pono me te pono ka waiho hei haumi me te tino hokinga mai o nga tau.
Whakaatuhia ki to hoa rangatira, ma roto i to reo a-tinana, kei te pono koe, kei te tuwhera koe ki a ratau. Ko te kati i a koe, ko te hipoki o to mangai i te wa e korero ana koe, me te whakaputa i nga kanohi kino he kara whero ki te kanohi maataki. Kia maarama ki nga korero a to tinana, ana whakatikatika kia mohio ai to wahine, to hoa rangatira ranei, he pono koe.
Whakamahia au mahi hei whakaputa i to aroha, to pono me to pono ki to hoa. Hokona he taonga whakaaro nui ma ratou, hoatu he mirimiri ki a raatau, awhina ranei ki a raatau i tetahi mahi raru. Kare e puaki te korero; ma au mahi e korero mo ratou ake.
Na kua mohio taau ki te mea nui o te korerorero i roto i te marenatanga me te aha i whai kiko ai te korerorero pai i waenga i nga taane, kia tiimata te toro atu ki to hoa taangata Korero moata mo te wa maha i roto i to marena. Whakamahia kia haere i waenga i a korua. Ki te kore he korerorero maru me te pono i waenga i te tane me te wahine, ka nui ake nga tutukitanga o te marena. Ko te korerorero ora te turanga mo te marena hei awhina i te marenatanga kia mau tonu i roto i te waa.