Toka Te Manawa
- 1. He aha i he
- 2. He pehea to hihiri kia mahi koe i to marena?
- 3. Ma te mohio ki te tika ka taea e koe te eke ki roto i te marenatanga iti
- 1. Te arotahi, whakatangi ka whakarongo ki to hoa rangatira
- 2. Korero 'me' kaua ki te 'ki' to hoa rangatira
- 3. Kawea mai te haehaa ki to marena
- 4. Ko te kii i te pouri kaore e ranea, whaia nga mahi
Na kei te marenatia koe mo te wa tuatoru, a ka tino mohio matou ko tenei wa ka hiahia koe kia pai to marena, i te mea ko wai e marena ana me te hiahia whakarere? Kore tangata!
Kei te mihi atu ki a koe mo o kaha ki te kimi i tetahi hoa ora kia pai ai koe ki te whakapau i to roanga o to koiora, me te kore hoki e tuku i te waa e hiahia ana te nuinga. Hei awhina i a koe i te ara kei a maatau etahi tohutohu tuatoru mo te marena ka awhina i a koe kia pai ake to marenatanga.
1. He aha i he
I mua i to peke ki to marena tuatoru, paatai tenei ki a koe ano; he aha i he i aku marenatanga e rua i mua? He aha taku mahi he? Me pehea taku whakarereke i enei tauira i roto i tenei marenatanga?
Kia mahara ki te tuhi i o patai me o whakautu kia taea ai e koe te whakaata me te whakamaumahara i a koe kia mau ki te ara tika i era waa ka timata koe ki te hoki ano ki o tikanga tawhito.
Ko te tohutohu tuatoru tenei mo te marena hei whakamaumahara i a koe ki te whakaae ki to taha ki nga raru o o marena i mua. Ahakoa kaore koe i mahi he, kaore ranei i a koe te kawenga mo te whakarere, paatai ki a koe ano he aha koe i kukume ai i aua taangata? He aha ta raatau i ako ki a koe?
Akene he tangata marenatia koe i tinihangatia hei tauira, kaore nei i te he koe, engari ko te patai ki a koe ano he aha kei roto i a koe e kukume mai ana i nga ahuatanga tinihanga ki to koiora ka puta ake he mohio. Mena ka taea e koe te whakatika i tenei, kaatahi koe e kore e kukume i nga tangata e penei ana te mahi ki a koe a muri ake nei.
2. He pehea to hihiri kia mahi koe i to marena?
Ko tenei tohutohu tuatoru mo te marena ko te pire aroha uaua. Ko te hunga e neke whakamua ana, kaore hoki i te rite, kaore ranei i pai ki te whakapau kaha ki roto i a ratau marena, na te mea ka marara ratau.
Mena ko koe tenei, whakaarohia kia rua i mua i to marenatanga me te whakarite kua rite koe ki te whakangao i nga ra katoa ki to hononga ka he ana i etahi waa. Mena kaore koe i te rite ka penapena i a koe ano te moni me te awangawanga, ka tohu noa ki to hoa.
Ko tetahi o nga tino take i roto i tenei ahuatanga ko te nuinga o te wa he hoa rangatira e whakaaro ana he tika ta raatau kaore e hiahia ki te whakararu ahakoa te utu mo te koa me te oranga o etahi atu. Ahakoa he he ratou.
3. Ma te mohio ki te tika ka taea e koe te eke ki roto i te marenatanga iti
Mena ka whakaaro koe he tika ahakoa te aha, kaore koe e aro ki tera, ka mutu ka marenatia koe, ka wehe ranei. Mea ohie roa te reira.
I te nuinga o te wa ka kitea tenei ahuatanga (engari kaore i te motuhake) i te wa e tuangahuru ana te hoa faaipoipo i te toru o nga marena me te nui o te moni a tetahi hoa rangatira.
Ahakoa he nui o moni, he tika tonu kia aroha tetahi ki a koe mo te taha ki a koe, kaua e whakatau mo tetahi e rata ana ki a koe mo te moni. Ana mena kei te hiahia koe ki te marena mo nga take iti, me mohio kei te whakarere ke koe i te aroha pono mo te moni. He rite ki te hoko i to wairua.
Mena ka taea e koe te mohio ki tenei ahuatanga me te mahi i roto i tena, ka mohio koe kei te marena koe mo nga take tika katoa - mo te aroha, ka kite pea koe kaore koe e aro ki te whakarere ano!
Anei te raarangi o nga ritenga e wha hei tono maau kia pai ai to whakanui i te marenatanga me te pono o te marena tuatoru.
1. Te arotahi, whakatangi ka whakarongo ki to hoa rangatira
Kia tupato ki ta raatau e korero nei, ana ka ana koe ki a raatau, ka kite koe i to hinengaro e haereere ana ki etahi atu mea, hoki mai ano ki te aro ki to hoa rangatira. Ki te peera koe, ka whanakehia to whakawhirinaki me te noho piri, ma te kore korero moata me to hoa rangatira e whakaatu kei roto katoa koe.
2. Korero 'me' kaua ki te 'ki' to hoa rangatira
Kaore he tangata e pai ki te korero 'i te' engari ka waatea katoa ina korero ana '. " Tangohia nga aukati e kore e kitea i waenga i a koe ma te whakawhanake i tenei tikanga korero ngawari me te maataki i nga whakarereketanga e puta mai ana i tenei tinihanga.
3. Kawea mai te haehaa ki to marena
Ki atu kei te pouri koe mena kei te he koe, ahakoa i etahi waa mena ka whakatika teera. Tena ra, whakawhetai atu ki to hoa rangatira - whakawhetai ki a koe mo te whakaaro nui, te whakaaro nui, kia pai ai o raatau whakaaro ki a raatau. Kia wa tika mo raatau, whakarongo ki a raatau, whakahekehia o parepare ki a raatau. Kia whakaraerae. Ko enei mahi katoa ka mohio to hoa rangatira he mea aroha, he hiahia, he mauruuru, ka mutu, ka hoki mai ano ki a koe, ka hangaia e koe he huringa o te aroha, me te whakawhirinaki me te kaha o te whakapau kaha!
4. Ko te kii i te pouri kaore e ranea, whaia nga mahi
Mena he pouri koe mo tetahi mea i mahia e koe, kaua e tuaruatia taua he - he harakore noa iho te pouri mai i te mea kaore koe e whai i te mahi, he huarahi tere hoki tera ki te ngaro te whakawhirinaki ki to hononga - whakawhirinaki ki a maatau, tenei Koinei tetahi o nga tohutohu tuatoru mo te marena me mohio koe!