Toka Te Manawa
- Ture 1: Kia whai wa ki te whakaora mai i te wehenga
- Ture 2: Ko korua kei te whaarangi kotahi?
- Ture 3: Whakaarohia he aha koe ka hiahia ai ki te whakahoahoa ki to hoa o mua?
- Ture 4: Kaua e whakatoi me te manaaki i a raatau kia rite ki to hoa
- Ture 5: Neke atu kia haere tonu
- Ture 6: Noho pai, noho koa
- Ture 7: Kati te karanga ki a raatau to ex
Ehara i te mea ngawari te whakahoa ki tetahi o mua mena kaore koe e whai i etahi aratohu. Kua mohio ano koe ki taua tangata, kua pau nga wa i te noho tahi ai korua. Ma te whakahoahoa ki a raatau ka uru atu koe ki tetahi waahi whakaraerae ka hinga ai koe mo taua tangata, ka taea ano ranei te whakakore i nga waahanga ka taea.
Hei awhina i a koe ki te whakahoahoa ki to hoa o mua, anei etahi tohu hei whai maau. Ka taea e to hoa o mua te hoa pai, i muri i nga mea katoa.
Ture 1: Kia whai wa ki te whakaora mai i te wehenga
Kei te maarama ta korua kaore koe e pai ki te tuku i to hoa tawhito, engari i mua i to whakaharatau i to hoa o mua, hoatu he wa ki a koe ano. He mamae te wehenga. Ka maumahara koe ki nga mahara pai katoa i tukuna atu e koe ki to hoa o mua. I mua i to tiimata i tetahi pene hou i roto i to koiora, kua tohutohuhia kia waatea kia ora mai ai i te waahanga kino.
Ka puta ana koe ki waho, ka tau ana, ka mohio koe na te hui ki to hoa o mua kaore koe e whakararu i to hinengaro me te kare-a-roto, ka taea e koe te whakaaro he hoa koe me to hoa o mua.
He pai ake ki te rapu koe i te tohutohu a o hoa ano hoki i mua i to whakatau kaupapa. Kaua e pa mai he hoa koe ki to hoa o muri ka kumea ano koe ki roto i te koretake.
Ture 2: Ko korua kei te whaarangi kotahi?
Kua korerohia e koe te whakaaro mo te hoa hei muri-wehenga me o hoa o mua? Kua hoatu e koe ki a ratou te wa ki te whakaaro mo te whakatau whakamutunga? Kua tirotirohia e korua te ahuatanga me tona mutunga i mua i te whakataunga?
He mea tika kia noho korua i runga i te whaarangi.
Kaore e tika kia piri tonu tetahi o koutou i mua engari ko etahi atu ka anga whakamua i roto i te ao.
I roto i nga ahuatanga penei, ka whakaaro koe he hoa noa koe me to hoa o mua engari ko tetahi ka pa ki nga raruraru kare a muri ake nei. Na, tirohia kei te wharangi kotahi korua ka anga whakamua ki te whakatau.
Ture 3: Whakaarohia he aha koe ka hiahia ai ki te whakahoahoa ki to hoa o mua?
Te tikanga, ka tanu e te iwi a ratau o mua ka anga whakamua i roto i te ao. Me penei te ahua o te ora. Heoi, i te wa i whakatau koe ki te mahi i tetahi mea rereke ka haurangi etahi, he mea tika kia arotake koe i nga painga me nga mea kino ka taea.
No reira, i mua i to whakatau ki te tuku i te whakaaro o te whakahoahoa ki to hoa o mua, kia mohio koe he aha koe ka hiahia ai ki te mahi.
Ma te arotake i te waa ka taea e koe te maarama ake te hinengaro me te take mo tenei mahi. Ae ra, ma tenei e pai ai to whakatau me te awhina i a koe ki te wehe i o mua me to waa o mua.
Ture 4: Kaua e whakatoi me te manaaki i a raatau kia rite ki to hoa
Kua mutu to hononga me to hoa o mua, kua neke haere i roto i to koiora, pera ano me to hoa o mua. Heoi, ka whakatau koe ki te korero ano ki a ratau, ano he hoa noa, he maarama ki te whakahoki mai i nga kare a roto. Heoi, kaore i te tika.
Ahakoa ki to whakaaro he pai ki te whakahoahoa me o hoa tawhito i roto i te tikanga whakaahuru, akene ka kii koe kaore koe i neke whakamua ka piri tonu ki te koropiko.
Me whakaatu e koe to paari ki te hiahia koe ki te whakahoa ki to hoa o mua.
Ture 5: Neke atu kia haere tonu
I te waahanga tuatahi i muri o te wehenga, ka tangi koe. Ka tangi koe i te mutunga o te waahanga ataahua. Ka oti ana, ka kohi koe i a koe ka timata ano. E kiia ana ko te neke haere me to koiora. I roto i enei keehi, ka whakatau koe ki te whakahoa me to hoa o mua, ka kite pea koe kua toia koe ki tenei ahuatanga, ano ano.
Ka neke tonu koe ka tiimata ano pea i tetahi mea hou me etahi atu. Waihoki, ka tiimata pea te kite i tetahi atu i muri i te wehenga. Ko te tohu o to neke kua haere ki runga ko te kite kei te koa ratou ki tetahi atu. Ma tenei e whakaatu ko koe to ratou hoa pono ehara i te hoa tawhito noa.
Ture 6: Noho pai, noho koa
Ae! I te nuinga o te wa ko te kore harikoa ki te hoa me tana hoa o mua ka ahu mai i te whakaaro kino kaore pea i roto i a koe. Ka pai mena kaore i pai te hononga. He pai me mutu e koe tetahi mea ataahua me te tangata ataahua, engari ehara i te kii ko te mutunga o te ao, a?
Mena kua whakatau koe ki te whakahoahoa ki to hoa o mua me pai te noho me te koa, kaua mo raatau engari maau ano hoki.
Ko te hari me nga kare pai ka awhina i a koe kia huri i to hoa o mua ki to hoa pai. I mohio korua ki a korua ano no reira ko te mea ko to hoa toua hei hoa pai, ka pai mena ka whakareri koe.
Ture 7: Kati te karanga ki a raatau to ex
Ko te nui o te waa e kiia ana e koe hei hoa o mua, ka maumahara ano koe ki o mua. Ko te hononga i a koe me to hoa o mua kua mutu, kua tiimata ano koe ki a raatau.
Kei te whakaae koe ki a raatau hei hoa mou, a, kaua e kiia ko to hoa o mua.
Ka whakatau ana koe ki te whakahoa me to hoa o mua, he mea nui kia tiimata te korero ki a koe hei hoa kaore hei hoa rangatira. Ma tenei e tohu maaramatanga kua neke koe i roto i to ao, kua rite ki te whakaae ki tenei hononga hou ki a raatau.